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Posted by xpax @xpax, Apr 5 2:04pm

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Simply have a dog's face for a pic and get lots of replies.

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@xpax

Simply have a dog's face for a pic and get lots of replies.

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@xpax, you sound like you're in a challenging spot and you feel like everyone else is getting replies and you're not. I know that's not a good feeling. To try and understand, I looked at your previous discussions here where you received dozens of replies:
- Lost Trying to Exist https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/lost-trying-to-exist/
- Becoming completely too scared to live https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/becoming-completely-too-scared-to-live/

But rather than me making assumptions, why don't you tell me what is going on?

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PS: Are you the artist behind the sketches?

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@colleenyoung

@xpax, you sound like you're in a challenging spot and you feel like everyone else is getting replies and you're not. I know that's not a good feeling. To try and understand, I looked at your previous discussions here where you received dozens of replies:
- Lost Trying to Exist https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/lost-trying-to-exist/
- Becoming completely too scared to live https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/becoming-completely-too-scared-to-live/

But rather than me making assumptions, why don't you tell me what is going on?

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Sorry, I appear to have generated a misperception. 🤔
I was so deeply depressed my body and brain hurt. That was a warped perception that those members I saw with dog photos got replies in the hundreds.
Major clinical depression crashes do not have to make sense.
I do thank you for going to the trouble of pointing those things out. Sanity veritas.

Best of 🧡 health, xpax !

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@xpax

Sorry, I appear to have generated a misperception. 🤔
I was so deeply depressed my body and brain hurt. That was a warped perception that those members I saw with dog photos got replies in the hundreds.
Major clinical depression crashes do not have to make sense.
I do thank you for going to the trouble of pointing those things out. Sanity veritas.

Best of 🧡 health, xpax !

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@xpax, you're so right. Major clinical depression crashes do not have to make sense. They can really skew things, fogging clear sight. I can understand the reaction to seeing an avatar with a dog and beside it, responses in the hundreds. Then, upon closer examination, one notices things like the discussion may have been started 4, 5, or more years ago. And also to see that there are discussions without pictures or animals that have thousands of replies.

Xpax, I'm glad you spoke your truth and what you saw and felt at the moment. That gave me, for one, the opportunity to reach out and reply. I'm also confident others will join in.

Now, speaking of profile pictures, your picture looks to be charcoal sketch. Is it a portrait? A self portrait? Are you the artist?

If yes, I invite you to also join this discussion with fellow artists.
- Art for Healing https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/art-for-healing/

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@xpax
Hi xpax. I've had days like this. I'm getting ready to blow the ink dry on an Autism diagnosis on Tuesday. I'm 38 so I'm sort of in the same boat with a late Autism diagnosis. I'm sorry your feeling bad, Its never fun to have those times. I'd like to share some stuff with you if I may. I'm not presuming to give advice or anything, just sharing my story a bit.

When I get overwhelmed by all the people around and their wants and wishes, I ask myself "What have I done for myself today?" I find usually I haven't done anything for me and I'm not in a good place. By doing something for me I build my sense of self so I'm not so susceptible to every one else. I think I lost my sense of self when I was working and juggling health problems. Its enough to wear a person out.

Maybe its the Autism but my mind tends to run all the time. However it likes to run in circles. So when I'm feeling down I will repeat a few simple things to change the circle of thought. Something like "I'm so super. I'm so awesome." its especially useful if my mind wont shut off so I can sleep. It puts me into a good thought loop and I will think that the whole time I'm sleeping. Then I wake up in the morning thinking I'm super awesome!

After contemplating how Autism may be affecting me as a person I found that I really cant wrap my head around it. I really don't know who I am or what I want any more, aside from getting answers to health problems.
So I decided to let the cat out of the bag so to speak and experiment with all the things I try to keep myself from doing so people wont think I'm weird. I've tried spinning in circles like a little kid. I've tried rocking back in forth and then in circles with my upper body. I have gone into stores and just felt all the different materials of all the clothes. I have also felt texture or traced the designs on dish with my fingers. Its an exercise in exploring myself and what satisfies me. While I have yet to find something I really like I always feel less pent up afterward. I have generally been trying to inhibit myself less. If you have any tips on exploring Autism as an adult I would love to hear them.

Also I have searched and search for a meditation channel on You Tube that I liked and finally found one. Its called The Mindful Movement. I think the ladies voice is very soothing. Its great even If I don't want to meditate it still puts positive thoughts into my head. Its also works great for me if I feel lonely but don't want social pressure.

Best book I read lately was Oh, the Places You'll Go! by Dr. Seuss. I think I enjoyed it more than my little niece who I was reading it to.

Sorry I don't do small talk well. This was the best I could do to generate some conversation. Best wishes.

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@xpax
Oops I meant to ask at the end if you have any positive things that you have found that help you in these situations. Also have you read any good books lately? Sorry it's late and I'm tired.

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I don't know if it has any effect on the number of replies I get, but Sadie is my service dog, for psychiatric assistance. She's as important to me as most people are, keeping me from falling or jumping into the dark depression hole. Animals play a big role in people's lives in many ways, whether as a companion, an emotional support or a trained service animal. Do you have a pet who helps you in some way? Just having one close by means a lot to millions of people.

Jim

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@jimhd

I don't know if it has any effect on the number of replies I get, but Sadie is my service dog, for psychiatric assistance. She's as important to me as most people are, keeping me from falling or jumping into the dark depression hole. Animals play a big role in people's lives in many ways, whether as a companion, an emotional support or a trained service animal. Do you have a pet who helps you in some way? Just having one close by means a lot to millions of people.

Jim

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@jimhd @xpax You're very right, Jim, about how animals can play such a major role in our mental health! My cat is very intuitive, and knows just how to comfort me when she senses my discomfort from mental pressures. As someone formally diagnosed late in life [at age 60] with Aspergers, there have been some real rocky days. Acknowledging the role they play is important.

Major depression is nothing to be taken lightly, and how we may react to it can change on any given day. @xpax I am glad you said something, and pleased to see the responses posted to support you! Are you feeling better today?
Ginger

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@xpax

Simply have a dog's face for a pic and get lots of replies.

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I have my Siberian Husky. Her registration papers are from Siberia.

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