Living in the world today

Posted by pvctom2021 @pvctom2021, Mar 21 11:06am

Hello to all

I have to post this as a ‘just want to talk’ with the discussion group…I woke this morning with a serious case of anxiety and part of it probably reflects the event of yesterday…the title of this topic..
I was in Walmart yesterday in a self checkout line with a medium order..the first line of machinery was blocked off.. I noticed behind me a lady in her late 40’s mid fifties wanting to move by me to the other side of the checkout machines…they were being used but I mentioned that I could move my basket if she wanted to get by..she replied no, I will back up and start over again.. I didn’t think 🤔 much about it until I was finished scanning and the chip reader malfunctioned…Walmart was crowded and very noisy, therefore to get the young man’s attention to the problem, I was forced to yell over to him to get him to see that I was having trouble..he was a nice young guy…I would say Latin American who agreed with my comment that these machines ought to be taken out, they seem to be more problematic than time consuming…the point is, at some point behind me, the lady who wanted to get by, met my eye as the assistant and myself started to move to another machine, and glared at me, Iwas about to ask her something, I’m not sure what, when she uttered the statement’I can only be embarrassed for you’, I’ve never seen or heard such rudeness’…I was stunned, but I did say to her, ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about lady’…the rest went fast, the young man scanned the ticket info from the malfunctioned reader and I was off. I thanked him, and he was nice said ‘have a nice one’ and then she called him over and started apologizing to him for my behavior…my Irish went up on that and I yelled over to her,and said ‘lady, I don’t know what your problem is, but you should mind your own business’….that’s as mild as I could keep it….and I left…I’ve been shopping there for years, have had nothing but nice experiences from customers and employees who help me in many ways…but this is the world we live in today…this woman looked stressed to the …she had that deranged look in her eye…it really gave me the creeps…the tension and stress that people are going through these days can sometimes cross the food checkout lines….🙏pvctom

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dj12 | @dj12 | Apr 3 2:20pm

In reply to @verol65 "Good for you, @dj12 . How did you feel afterwards?" + (show)

Ready to get going again. Chemo makes me so tired 😴. When I take a shower I need a 15 minute break afterwards before I get dressed.
Today I am leaving the house to eat out and walk. I feel like I'm waking up from hibernation after not leaving the house for 5-6 days.
I think maybe I'll have a waffle 🧇.
2 weeks of freedom until next chemo. Funny how bad I feel but then how quick I recover until next time.
Thanks for asking and hope I see the critters today. Sometimes if it's too late in the day, the chickens have already gone up to their roost. But I always look for them!

Miriam, Volunteer Mentor | @mir123 | Apr 3 2:30pm

In reply to @sueinmn "Oh floralou, generalizations like this make me so sad! We live in a largely Hispanic community,..." + (show)

Hi Sue--your comments warmed my heart. I've spent my adult life in a small multicultural city, mostly Hispanic, and taught community college for 25 years. Where yes, doors were always held for me, boxes carried, and sometimes even my desk and chair were tidied up after a seminar. I'm aunt to 7 nieces and nephews who check on me and visit--from hundreds of miles away. And of course my daughter and son-in-law right here are invaluable in terms of support and fun. I love the younger generations--we're not leaving them a world in great shape but I admire their optimism and community and family spirit in the face of everything. One thing I really enjoyed about a recent long stay in Hawaii was that my husband and I were called "aunt" and "uncle" by everyone--the Pacific rim brings together many cultures that respect seniors. I do experience some road rage and some rudeness in stores--yes, almost exclusively people in own age bracket, not younger. Thanks for putting in a good word for the upcoming generations!

verol65 | @verol65 | Apr 3 2:31pm

In reply to @dj12 "Ready to get going again. Chemo makes me so tired 😴. When I take a shower..." + (show)

I'm glad you're feeling up to walking and having a waffle. Enjoy both, @dj12 !

pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 3 2:40pm

In reply to @dj12 "Ready to get going again. Chemo makes me so tired 😴. When I take a shower..." + (show)

@dh12

That’s doing it…just be careful with the balance part of the walk….you sound like your spirits are working well…’you gotta have heart’
…love that song from ‘damn Yankees’….enjoy the waffles..🧇🙏pvctom

pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 3 3:35pm

In reply to @floralou "I have found that anyone under 59 is prone to the behavior you encountered . Positive..." + (show)

I want to say that I was not talking about any group of people or nationality…I was trying to convey that a woman (Caucasian) said something so inappropriate and demeaning that it shocked me beyond the pale..the young man who I was raising my voice to was A nice young Latino man who completely understood my frustration and he was very kind and professional…I didn’t mean to start anything … this world we live in is too full of political rancor…

pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 3 3:56pm

In reply to @floralou "I have found that anyone under 59 is prone to the behavior you encountered . Positive..." + (show)

@floralou

Thanks for your reply…rude behavior that goes beyond the pale does bother anyone and can come from anywhere anytime…I guess the point I was trying to make, is that this woman (Caucasian) in another line, glared at and shamed me with a statement that stunned me..because it was so uncalled for and it creeped me out…I never intimated that any group of person or persons of any age group or nationality had any doing with it…again thanks for your supportive reaction…🙏pvctom

pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 4 12:36pm

Hello to all,

I woke this morning in a state of worry…things have not been the same since I fell a month ago…I’m sore, and my ankles and feet are puffy at night when I go to bed…but I’m able to walk and maneuver fairly well..I take my cane with me now in case I need it…my appointment with the dermatologist is this Tuesday and my orthopedic surgeon appointment is the 24th…still can’t get a notion as to this continued morning anxiety other than the medical article on CAR and the relationship it seems to have with seniors…but I say my short prayer and I ask for acceptance and peace…I kept thing about this as I lay in bed waking up , thanking God for another day and a place to go and an independence to drive myself…when I pray for acceptance it’s like I put myself into a trance….and I get going with the day…it’s good here..
a good day to all here. 🙏pvctom

verol65 | @verol65 | Apr 4 12:59pm

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Big hug to you, @pvctom2021

pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 4 1:25pm

Thanks, and one to you as well 🙏 @verol65

pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 6 1:36am

Hello to all

Thank you all here for such support..just having a forum and a place to share is a blessing…another work week ends and a terrifying moment in New York with the earthquake and aftershocks…may all who come here have a safe and peaceful weekend 🙏pvctom