At what age do you stop driving?

Posted by cathy58 @cathy58, Feb 19 9:46am

I am 65 and since November 2023 I have had some pretty good health issues and have had cataract surgery. My daughter who does not live with me has been driving my car so if I needed to go somewhere her or one of my grandchildren would take me. So now she doesn’t really think I should be driving anymore because now I’m on oxygen. Do I give up driving and sell my car? What would you do?

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@cathy58

You are correct!! I think I let this disease and fears of getting sick dictate my life. I need to just bite the bullet and start doing the things I use to do like Drive.

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@cathy58
Atta girl!!
I need to take a course too. I didn't know about the discount. Thanks @vic83
Jake

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@jakedduck1

@cathy58
Atta girl!!
I need to take a course too. I didn't know about the discount. Thanks @vic83
Jake

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Here is a place to start for teh course/discount. But lots of places offer the senior defensive driving course
https://www.nsc.org/safety-training/defensive-driving/nsc-defensive-driving-courses/defensive-driving-mature-drivers

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@sueinmn

Take the AARP or AAA Safe Driving or "55 Alive" Course, turn the information in to your insurance, and you get a discount. Some companies even offer this to their under 55 customers as a "Safe Driver" discount. My agent even has a "tickler" that reminds us when the 3 years is expiring. For my 75+ spouse, this plus being accident-free means we did not see the typical jump in our premiums. This is important to us because we travel 20-25,000 miles per year between our travels, volunteering and taking car of grandkids. No "low mileage" discounts in our house!
That reminds me, if you only drive a few miles a year(typically under 7500), ask for a low-mileage discount. It saves my sister 1/4 on her premium now that she is retired and only runs errands with her car.

Sue

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Sorry, I had to laugh at 7500 miles a year. I do that just in getting to and from medical appointments! My car's manufacturer has a monthly evaluation emailed to me. Most months it tells me I am driving too much. Duh... why do you buy a car if not to drive it?!
Ginger

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@gingerw

Sorry, I had to laugh at 7500 miles a year. I do that just in getting to and from medical appointments! My car's manufacturer has a monthly evaluation emailed to me. Most months it tells me I am driving too much. Duh... why do you buy a car if not to drive it?!
Ginger

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no. i bought it to sit in the garage and collect dust. while i pay high ins prems. 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

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@gingerw

Sorry, I had to laugh at 7500 miles a year. I do that just in getting to and from medical appointments! My car's manufacturer has a monthly evaluation emailed to me. Most months it tells me I am driving too much. Duh... why do you buy a car if not to drive it?!
Ginger

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Good Lord! I could see that kind of courtesy, and ethical behaviour, if you were leasing the car and had to turn it in below a certain maximum mileage or incur a penalty (so many cents per km often), but....wow!

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for me its physical. I stopped in 2021 because I could not feel the pedals. I still have my car, pay insurance, reggy etc. I’m having difficulty letting go because I don’t know if I will get better. I’m holding onto hope.

I am going to soon ask my guy to take me to an empty parking lot and let me see what it’s like. Although recent events tell me it’s dangerous for me to go into traffic if the foot pains strike while driving i will freeze and not be Able to brake.

I don’t think it’s an age necessarily. I think it should be based on ability, physical state, cognitive condition.

It’s so hard hanging up the keys. I was fortunate the county has a bus service that will drive you anywhere in the county for a nominal fee. You have to wait a while for pick up but at least there is an option. It’s how I get to dr appointments.

I wish you well !!

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Hi Cathy58
Using oxygen does not automatically preclude you from driving. Your physician will advise you accurately.
Back in the 90's my father drove with oxygen. He was severe C.O.P.D. . He loved driving and became his only hobby.
But... to our horror, he would turn off the oxygen while driving! The results were very noticeable! (so we told his specialist what Dad was up to. So Dad got the sternest lecture of his life!)
For the last 5 years of his life, we all were interrogated as to whom had done this!
It remains the family joke, as he never did find out.
We enjoy a double victory: Dad continued to drive accident free, right up until his death ! He died in a hospital bed from his long term lung issues, and never harmed another with his driving!

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@nemo1

for me its physical. I stopped in 2021 because I could not feel the pedals. I still have my car, pay insurance, reggy etc. I’m having difficulty letting go because I don’t know if I will get better. I’m holding onto hope.

I am going to soon ask my guy to take me to an empty parking lot and let me see what it’s like. Although recent events tell me it’s dangerous for me to go into traffic if the foot pains strike while driving i will freeze and not be Able to brake.

I don’t think it’s an age necessarily. I think it should be based on ability, physical state, cognitive condition.

It’s so hard hanging up the keys. I was fortunate the county has a bus service that will drive you anywhere in the county for a nominal fee. You have to wait a while for pick up but at least there is an option. It’s how I get to dr appointments.

I wish you well !!

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A very thoughtful and ETHICAL perspective you have here. This is strictly my opinion, based on what words you have chosen.

As Dirty Harry said all those years ago, 'A wise (person) knows his/her limits' Far better to have a couple of bad days accepting that you've had to take down your credentials than to know that you've caused a funeral to happen next Saturday.

And, you are right, nemo1, it's not strictly age, but it should be based on a standardized assessment and self-knowledge.

Some communities, such as my own on Vancouver Island, have a pool of volunteer drivers to take people to appointments. In our case, it's for a drive 120 miles one way to where the best hospitals are. Sometimes the drivers are affiliated with a certain disease or disorder, such as cancer societies, kidney disease where people have to be taken for dialysis,...that kind of thing.

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@gloaming

A very thoughtful and ETHICAL perspective you have here. This is strictly my opinion, based on what words you have chosen.

As Dirty Harry said all those years ago, 'A wise (person) knows his/her limits' Far better to have a couple of bad days accepting that you've had to take down your credentials than to know that you've caused a funeral to happen next Saturday.

And, you are right, nemo1, it's not strictly age, but it should be based on a standardized assessment and self-knowledge.

Some communities, such as my own on Vancouver Island, have a pool of volunteer drivers to take people to appointments. In our case, it's for a drive 120 miles one way to where the best hospitals are. Sometimes the drivers are affiliated with a certain disease or disorder, such as cancer societies, kidney disease where people have to be taken for dialysis,...that kind of thing.

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I cannot fathom a 120 mile ride one way. We are fortunate to have rides available to us. I consider myself lucky - I would have to go to considerable, unaffordable expense to get myself around had this form of transportation not been available. One must be disabled to ride.

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@thisoldewe

Hi Cathy58
Using oxygen does not automatically preclude you from driving. Your physician will advise you accurately.
Back in the 90's my father drove with oxygen. He was severe C.O.P.D. . He loved driving and became his only hobby.
But... to our horror, he would turn off the oxygen while driving! The results were very noticeable! (so we told his specialist what Dad was up to. So Dad got the sternest lecture of his life!)
For the last 5 years of his life, we all were interrogated as to whom had done this!
It remains the family joke, as he never did find out.
We enjoy a double victory: Dad continued to drive accident free, right up until his death ! He died in a hospital bed from his long term lung issues, and never harmed another with his driving!

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i'm sorry for the loss of your father. but i'm happy he never had an accident. luckily, with him turning off the oxygen. it did not affect him any. but that can not be said of everybody. d

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