Looking for help for my son on heroin

That seems functional for now, but believe a guy that spent 37 yrs addicted, it’s progressive. Detox , treatment, heroin anonymous. You can’t convince him unless you are will to push him out of your life if he doesn’t stop. And mean it.

Have you heard of Carl Hart of Columbia Univ who wrote the book, Drug Use for Grown Ups?
It may depend upon what is his 'addict' state is tho.
https://www.npr.org/2021/01/15/955631394/drug-use-for-grown-ups-serves-as-an-argument-for-personal-choice
There is good coverage on his approach on the net. Suggest some research

Thanku I will check this out 😊

I was a heroin addict for years. I have been clean for 34 yrs. I kicked the habit when I went to prison for sales. I know lot's of people who got on Methadone. It's better than being hooked on heroin. It takes the cravings away. Best of luck to you and your son. I will be keeping you both in prayer.

My 38 yr old Son has been an addict since 2007. He’s been seriously hardcore the last ten years. We had to sever ourselves legally. If he shows up, he gets a sandwich sitting outside while the police are on their way.
He’s in jail 1/2 of each year for the typical addict mischievous activities. He’s given a script of Suboxone and sent on his way. I’ve talked with social workers, LE, parole officers, public defenders and prosecutors. All Say it’s a broken system. For years I have heard this.
There is NO HOPE for him or us survivors. This is right up there with the death of our sweet 8 year old grandson. Actually, with Alex it was final. With our Son it is not hope but fear today will be the overdose day and we get that call. But then every day just gets repeated.

Hi, I can relate to this . I have a son . Only 27 bipolar and has a f2f who is an addict I found out by mistake. she is homeless attaches herself to men that come along. I've tried helping, from all I have done and have been told. they have to want to help themselves...no amount of sorry or interference will help.

That’s a fact. People that are not interested in recovering will use those who are so invested in helping them. They use them and lie to them.

Very sadden by your dilemma. But you are doing ing everything right. More prayer and more offering of treatment centers, and hope one of them sticks. He has to want it more than anything. Good luck prayers for you.

Tru dat,
If it’s unbearable for you, Alanon will help. Prayers for all of you.

@baxterlee77 unfortunately addiction isn't something you can convince someone to stop. You have to come to terms thats its a disease like anything else. The only thing you can do is choose to not enable him. You can love him from a distance but don't help him. Functioning right now won't stay like that forever eventually his tolerance will get extremely high then it will cost more and eventually he will choose to get his fix before paying rent. That's when your gonna have to give him tuff Loveland not help or enable him. Try getting him to go on methadone and taper off. People who have never experienced that addiction can't even begin to fathom the hold it has on the one using. The withdrawal alone is why most don't want to stop because it's unbearable and it doesn't stop after withdrawal. It's hard work the rest of his life. He will always be addicted and always get a craving even after he gets off of it. If he is ready and wants to then you can help him but if he thinks because he is functioning he doesn't have a problem then unfortunately there is absolutely nothing you can do. It's not his fault tho and it's not because he doesn't care. It's because the disease takes control of his mind. He's gotta have the want and the will to stop. I'm so sorry for what you as a mother are feeling . I watched my mother try to get my brother clean for 16 years. Then one day 12 years ago she decided if I cant beat it ill join it. And she has turned in to an addict herself. I've been around it my whole life there isn't anything we can do until they want to do it. Sending love.