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ROSEMARY: What brought you to Mayo Clinic Connect?
@ayeshasharma: Moderator @kanaazpereira introduced me to Connect!
ROSEMARY: What motivates you to take part in the community?
@ayeshasharma: Since I'm fairly new to Connect, I want to get to know the platform and its members. As I become accustomed to it, I'm motivated to discuss topics that interest me like food, exercise and mental health, but also to share information that affirms Connect as a safe space for anyone who engages with the platform. There are lots of groups that feel alienated from health care spaces due to their identity, expression or cultural background. So, on Connect and beyond, I strive to be outspoken about that: to let those people know they're not alone. I want them to know, from reading through discussions, that they have support before they even make their first posts.
ROSEMARY: What about Connect makes you feel comfortable to share and to be open with the community?
@ayeshasharma: Connect is a kind and intentional community, comprised of mentors, moderators and members who care about keeping it that way.
ROSEMARY: What groups do you participate in?
@ayeshasharma: Depression & Anxiety, Just Want to Talk, Mental Health and About Kids & Teens.
ROSEMARY: Tell us about a meaningful moment on Connect.
@ayeshasharma: Just the other day, a member posted about recognizing personal bias or prejudice. The member had a very honest ask of the community, "Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude."
I entered the discussion at a later point in order to respond to the original post. I felt our ensuing discussion was humble, intergenerational and straightforward. This brings me to another aspect of Connect that I like: It's very different from the spaces that I'm used to! I'm accustomed to chatting with 20-somethings who are deep within the social media era. I think my generation can sometimes have a judgmental attitude about itself, because it wants to create a culture that clearly doesn't accept prejudice. But the unintended consequence of that is we may alienate people who genuinely want to learn about other cultures and ways of life but don't have the language to do so.
Connect is a very intentionally and outwardly welcoming community, so there is a potential for a different type of conversation to occur here.
ROSEMARY: What surprised you the most about Connect?
@ayeshasharma: I suppose it’s that there’s so much to learn. As much as it's a community for Connecting, it's also a vast knowledge base.
ROSEMARY: What energizes you, or how do you find balance in your life?
@ayeshasharma: I show myself kindness. I have various imageries I use to clear my mind in these moments of kindness —they're kinda funny. When I really need some peace, I will visualize a hand holding a whiteboard eraser, scrubbing the inside of my brain clean. That helps a lot.
Another thing I do, since I tend to get overwhelmed by anxiety, is visualize my stressors as a heavy coat. To chill out, I take off my metaphorical coat, and hang it up on a coat hanger.
These mental exercises help me recenter and find balance.
ROSEMARY: Tell us about your favorite pastime or activity.
@ayeshasharma: Lately, I've been weightlifting 3 to 4 times per week, which I really love. I grew up playing sports year-round, such as track, basketball and volleyball, so I still enjoy the challenge to increase my strength.
ROSEMARY: What do you appreciate the most in your friends?
@ayeshasharma: Humor, genuine character and respect.
ROSEMARY: What food can you simply not resist?
@ayeshasharma: Too many. Some that I recently made are fried chicken sandwiches with homemade pickles and Japanese mayo, barbecued pulled chicken and an Indian dish called khichdi.
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@rosemarya 🙂
Thank you for that. I've been a freelance journalist for the past couple years...started in my last year of college. My advocacy has also been through writing, activism, training/facilitation, program development, mentorship, and art. I was on the production team to make this video series, Dispelling Beauty Myths: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORHZeaKebKg
A few summers back, I researched and wrote the script for a nationally mandated training program for K-12 educators on identifying and preventing child sexual abuse. Will be looking for a full time job in the US come April so I'll be searching for this sort of healthcare advocacy work in program/policy development.
Two of my articles are awaiting publication in The Guardian and I Weigh, and so I'd love to share those here when they're out. Writing is such a JOY and a craft, but the industry isn't the most stable. Lots of layoffs happening regularly from major outlets, unfortunately :/
Thank you for asking. As you mentioned, I am a 20-something. 24 to be exact. So these past few years have admittedly been very growth-oriented and change-filled. Learning to remain humble while assertive while grateful for this world and committed to its betterment.
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1 ReactionAyesha, You chose a perfect video clip to share! I could relate to this clip about Dispelling Beauty Myths: Age. I remember being in 5th grade when my dark brown/black hair began to show silver streaks, so age related comments were hurtfull and have always been a sensitive issue for me.
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1 Reaction@rosemarya thank you for sharing that with me. That must have been really tough, and our society is one that places so much value and expectation on appearing youthful. I've been watching this show, Queer Eye, on Netflix. If you haven't watched it, it's sort of like a 2010s version of Extreme Makeover...run by five gay hosts. Something they focus a lot on is eliminating shame within oneself, and it's so tied into this conversation about age too. There shouldn't be shame in aging, or appearing to be aging. It's such a natural process. But there is. That's why it can be liberating to see people expressing themselves without concern for 'beauty rules.' We get to see people embracing themselves, silver hair and all, and looking so stunning because of one thing: confidence!
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2 ReactionsHello all, I wanted to share the article I was referring to above in the chat.
https://iweighcommunity.com/ways-to-get-help-without-leaving-your-house/
I wrote this between last year and this year after interviewing health professionals and conducting research on health technology–specifically as it serves stigmatized individuals often alienated from healthcare spaces. Made a brief reference to my work on Mayo Connect at the end 🙂
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2 Reactions@ayeshasharma It really bothers me that we still have such a long way to go in acceptance of all people. Being Caucasian and heterosexual I have not had personal experience with any of this but having friends that are part of the LGBTQ community has made me aware ever since I was in my early 20s, which was 50 years ago!
Your article is a great gift to the stigmatized people who are dealing with these identifications. Knowing you are not alone is always helpful I think.
JK
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2 Reactions@ayeshasharma I am so glad that you are part of Connect. You provide a new outlook for many of us who have not shared your experiences. Thank you!