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Worried about pregnancy - got carried away right before my peak!
I'm not sure why I'm posting. I guess I'm just in an absolute state of panic and wondering how I'm going to keep functioning for the next week.
I'm 36, I already have 3 children (7,3,18months) all delivered by c section. I'm Catholic and my husband and I use the Marquette method of NFP. We've only being doing this since our third child.
I've been having periods for the last 5 months and my first 3 were more of less stable: peak readings on days 16-18 and a luteal phase of exactly 10 days. During my 4th cycle I stopped breastfeeding (and also had covid) and suddenly my cycle lasted 34 days total (rather than 28) although I didn't catch my peak day because I ran out of test sticks. Last month my cycle was 30 days but I didn't get a peak reading at all. This month, I assumed my ovulation would be more towards days 16-17 again or even later based on the last two months. But I was wrong: I got a peak reading early on day 12, the day after I had unprotected sex.
I understand this is probably the most fertile day and I probably have around30% chance of being pregnant. Google is scaring me saying my chance is 'significant'. My first and third child I conceived first try. My middle child took 18months to conceive but I wasn't tracking as closely then. Im terrified. I don't want to be pregnant again.
I'm worried about 4 sections but more than this, I'm worried about what my workplace will think. I'm worried about what my family will think (they think 3 kids is more than enough).
I guess all I can do is wait but the wait is killing me. The thought of getting through the day today looking after 3 kids makes me feel sick. I also have back pains and cramping that I'm overthinking as I'm sure I get this every month anyway. I'm likely 4-5dpo today. Any kind words appreciated
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Hi Swindells5,
I understand your concern. Not knowing for sure what is going on with your body. But think about the good things in your life. You have 3 wonderful children! One more gift from God would just make that a very nice, happy family! Children are a lot of work but if you just pace yourself and try not to do everything at once it will work out fine. Plus they are so enjoyable and make life worthwhile for both you and your husband. Don't worry about what they will think at work or what your family will say. It's really none of anyone's business except you and your husband. Also you are only 36. That's young! When you are older and a senior, you will need those children and will be so glad that you have them to help you. I'm 79 and have one son who hasn't spoken to me in 20 years. My husband died in 2024. I wish I had more children who would help me now I'm alone because I could use some help.
I would suggest that you give all your concerns up to God. He's always there for us and being Catholic I'm sure you already know that. God will make things right. He's good at that. Things will be just fine. I'll say a prayer for you also.
I wish you the best.
PML
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4 ReactionsHave you had a pregnancy test yet?
@pml thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. You have no idea what it's meant to me to read your kind words of comfort and encouragement this morning, it's brought tears. I've really struggled to sleep and to engage with my family the last days with the anxiety and worry. I suspect I'll be reading your words a few times more over the next hours and days.
Thank you also for your prayers. I try my best to offer it all up but then anxiety takes hold again and I start to spiral.
I will say a prayer for you (and your son and your husband, may he rest in peace) too. Thank you again, you have no idea how much of a balm your words have been. I know there is nothing I can do now except wait.
@laura1970 yes I've taken one this morning even though I know it's too early at 6-7dpo. Negative. I think Sunday is really the earliest I can start to take it.... Wednesday will be the big day. Thank you for taking the time to reply too xx
@swindells5 as long as you and your husband are okay with having another child, that’s all that matters. It is nobody else’s business how many children you should have! Enjoy your little ones - they they grow up too fast!
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1 Reaction@rashida thank you for your kind words too. I'm truly grateful for this thread this morning. It's really helped me to start this day with a better perspective. My husband would love another child. It's just me with all these worries. Xx
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1 Reaction@swindells5,
I'm so happy that I could help you a little! You made my day! I'm glad that my words comforted you. That was what I meant to do. Thank you also for your prayers! One can never have too many prayers. I will continue to remember you and your family in my prayers also.
I know it's hard sometimes to give everything up to God and not worry about it but it works. God is in control of everything and he'll work it all out for you. Sometimes it takes a while but God comes through in his time.
If you need to talk, I'm here. In the meantime, enjoy your precious family!
I wish you all the best!
PML
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1 Reaction@pml It's funny how God answers prayers in unexpected ways sometimes. I asked for him to help me find peace during this time of waiting for an answer and I'm sure he's using you to that end! I really can't thank you enough for being there.
My husband knows how worried I am but he just isn't a worrier and can't really understand it. I've started a surrender novena this morning and it's helping somewhat.
My little boy was being sick during the night last night too - so at least that made the night go very quickly as I could worry about something else! As is sometimes (thankfully) the way, he's woken up this morning as if nothing has happened and has eaten 6 rounds of toast 😂
I hope you have something nice planned for the weekend wherever in the world you are?
Thank you so much for keeping us in your prayers. Xxx