Will this pain fade at all? 💔

When I was bereaved--my first husband died at 36--I felt sure I'd feel exactly that terrible forever. I was wrong, and I did indeed feel much better and more myself eventually. It wasn't just that time heals--I had to really put energy into it.
However, each grief process is different, and some depends on the specifics. Are you comfortable sharing what your situation is? That will help others respond. I'm glad you are reaching out.

Hi Miriam - At the present time, I am going through a difficult situation. My wife passed away unexpectedly at our home on 2/13/25 and we were married 52 years. I was in shock. I have three adult children who have given me tons of support and friends are reaching out to me. Yet, things feel upside down, very abnormal and time has slowed down. Grief is difficult to deal with and I have reached out to a support group who meet in person for those who lost a spouse. The first meeting is in 10 days and I'm hopeful that meeting with others going through the same as me in losing a spouse will be helpful. My doctor tells me that over time, the pain from all of this will relax but it takes time, and it is not the same for all. I doubt it will ever disappear; I think it will always be there in different ways and in a different level which we then learn to accept.

I think you are right--the pain will relax but never completely disappear. For me that was ok--part of my remembrance is the grief. I'm so very sorry to hear of this loss--it is devastating. I was in therapy every week, and in a grief group weekly, and my young daughter was in therapy, and at a counselor's suggestion Jewish religious school. So basically I had some place supportive to be almost every day. It really helped. Check back in maybe after you group meets? also got networked to other young widows who took me to lunch and let me sob all over them. People who understand are the best support. Take care of yourself.

Miriam - You are right 100%. Only those who have been thru this understand the depth. I've heard from about 7 people who lost their spouse or partner. Several I hardly even know who called and gave me confidence that although not easy, the grief is part of the healing. I will check bath with you periodically and let you know how I'm doing. This is a journey I never expected considering we were to be on a 10-day cruise on 3/20/25. Life can change in a matter of minutes, it did for me. Thanks, and appreciate your comments. Ed

Thank you! I'll look forward to hearing from you. And will be thinking of you.

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I just lost my Mommy to cancer, not even two weeks ago! So many questions, blame, sadness!.. She was not just my Mom,but we were best friends 😞 I stayed with her every moment for nearly a month taking care of her!! It was so hard seeing her slip away like that!! I am glad I was with her,but never want to know that again. I pray I can be "ok" some day. For now that means just to make it couple hours without bawling. I honestly don't want to live without her! But I promised I would! 😞😥 I have yet to finish packing up her apartment. It's so hard! Thanks for letting me go on. Ya see, nobody to talk to...

Talking really can help. Might you consider joining a grief group? There are some on-line, some in churches, and some in the community, although often attached to hospitals and mortuaries. Was your Mom in hospice or at cancer center? You might find a group that way, or an individual therapist or chaplain. I couldn't move on in my grief by myself--I had a lot of help. Your Mom was so lucky to have you! (And you her). A Mom's love can still help you now--you promised you'd go on, and her love still within you can help. Less than two weeks is a very short amount of time. Take it easy on yourself. I'm very sorry about your loss, and glad you are on Connect.

@yhopefullstill - I posted above my wife passed away 5 weeks ago. Married 52 years. One thing I found out, need to take care of yourself. Need to get enough sleep, eat well and if needed be, let your doctor know of any struggles you're having. Grief is extremely difficult. I have joined a weekly in person support group. Also, several avail online. Sorry to hear about your loss, give it time because that is what it takes to get through this.