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what should I do am I being too dramatic?

Posted by help541 @help541, May 2, 2025

I'm on my school's swim team, and ever since I joined, I have felt excluded. I've been on it for about two years. At first, I really enjoyed it, but now, every time I go to practice, I dread going. My teammates are very cliquish.. I've tried reaching myself and starting conversations, but they either laugh or just seem uninterested. They do club swimming, and if you're not in that club, then they have little to no interest in you. My parents can't afford it, and I also don't have the time to do it. Another dilemma I have with my team is my coach; she picks favorites, and they are 100% her favorites. She yells at me for being on my phone, meanwhile, they're near me on their phones. A while ago, my coach commented on how I should watch what I eat. I'm 17 and I'm 100 pounds. I didn't even have food when she said that. As a teenage girl, I take offense to that kind of stuff and get upset by it. I've now found myself eating less and eating healthier. My mom says I'm just being too sensitive, but I see it as hurtful.

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help541 | @help541 | May 5, 2025
In reply to @covidstinks2023 "help541, Beautiful Sweet girl, some things never change. Girls in high school can be so cruel...." + (show)
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help541, Beautiful Sweet girl, some things never change. Girls in high school can be so cruel. This is not a new thing....believe me and I am much older than you. I apologize to you on their behalf. This is cruel and
hurtful and immature. Sounds like you are very mature for your age.

Is there another sport that you can be involved in at this point in the school year? Sounds like you have lost interest in this and it's expensive for you.

If this gets completely out of hand, I would talk to your mom some more, perhaps the school counselor or perhaps talk to a teacher that you are close too.

A lot of times, when someone makes fun of you or excludes you, it's because they are so insecure themselves.
Sometimes, its jealousy.

I am so sorry they are treating you so unfairly. One day you will look back at this and it will be a distant memory. You will have moved on in life and realized you were much more mature than that, took the
higher road and acted accordingly.

You are tenderhearted....that's a good thing. I also am tenderhearted and had much rather be that way than to be uncaring and cruel to others.

I was an overweight child. I got called names on the school bus. When I became a teenager I lost a lot of weight and got really thin. Guess what? They called me names because I was thin! The name calling made me
more sensitive to the less fortunate and the downcast and I learned that those less fortunate than me needed
my friendship. It was a blessing to be a blessing to someone. I'm sure there are people at your school that would love a friend....just like you.

I was not athletic in gym class. I loved health....but not p.e. I was not the teacher's favorite. She was very competitive....I was the last one chosen for teams. This served me later on in life as it taught me humility.

You are going to be ok. I love you, praying for you and God has made you very special. Please keep me posted on your progress.

Blessings & Prayers.....

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thank you so much

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covidstinks2023 | @covidstinks2023 | May 5, 2025
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Always remember the Golden Rule

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Amen! Matthew 7:12.

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