Thoughts for Thanksgiving

As Thanksgiving approaches, I have been reflecting a lot on my progress (or lack thereof) in the nearly five years since my stroke. As I have said elsewhere, this is the fight of my life, and I intend to win.

Along the way, I have learned a few things.

First of all, it's a love story. Without my wife's endless loving care, I would have been a goner long ago. That motivates me to do my utmost to get better, out of my love for her.

Beyond that, I am tremendously grateful for the help, support, and encouragement I have received from many others, including members of Mayo Connect.

Forgiveness is a big part of recovery. I had a terrible habit of blaming myself for everything wrong around me, and cursing my imperfections. As someone said, "Would you be friends with someone who is as harsh and unforgiving of you as you are of yourself?" Well, good-bye to all that. The only way is forward.

Also, I have learned not to waste energy on negatives. Things like unforgiveness, anger, ingratitude, and selfishness have no place anymore. And to be blunt, people who represent these things are no longer welcome in my life. I had to make difficult decisions about some people, but I'm glad I did.

More practically, I have learned a way to evaluate my progress and recovery. I know it's not a straight line going in one direction...and it's more than one line. There are at least three. (More on that later, if you're interested.)

Finally, my Thanksgiving wish for you is that you have much to be thankful for!