Severe TBI from car crash, now severe social indifference

I’m very sorry to hear of your situation. Has anyone checked for pituitary dysfunction? The pituitary gland can be damaged in a head injury but inexplicably doctors rarely check for it.

@andygw - that sounds like a horrible accident. Wow. With that and the physical symptoms you mentioned, it's not surprising you feel anger.

During your hospitalization and PT period, did you also see a therapist specializing in trauma? If not, is that something you are considering?

@andygw my husband didn’t start experiencing his symptoms til 2020, 16 years post accident, diagnosed with PTSD, TBI and persistent post concussion syndrome, have seen every doctor under the Sun since then, that was the one thing they didn’t really check was his head, though all his hair fell out in the back of his head after his 2 week stay in the ICU. He had 8 broken ribs, 3 crushed, punctured lung, surgery on his hand, elbow and knee, tongue 3/4 of the way cut through, sowed his ear back on……3 weeks after our son was born, that along with playing high school & College Football (cracked helmets) and a cracked snowmobile helmet as well. All they do is throw meds at him - 13 currently - he is losing hope.

You have every right as your accident was not your fault. Wonder if those that caused it ever think about it or feel guilty? So sorry!

My husband to is angry “at the world” most days, angry because he is not who he used to be, how he can’t do certain things, it flows into his marriage and mostly the relationship with our son. H says and has done some horrible things to him (derogatory) & can’t help it and later is sorry, but it’s too late. I am so sorry about your accident.

@lisalucier I have never recovered from it 100%. I still cannot run, I'm still dizzy and clumsy. I walk strange, sometimes toe to heel because im not sure where the floor is. Most people do not understand and I'm tired of explaining. My coma was caused by being hit by a drunk driver. He t-boned my car, pushed it into the on coming lane and I hit another car head on, killing the driver, an 18 yo girl with a 3 year old child. The hospitalization, the PT I went to for 2 years. I don't dwell on the past, but when I think of it, the girls death because of a guy who did not care makes me angry too, it was a hit and run. He and his friends ran away. The comment I read made me think of it. Both of those 2 things and my physical limitations are what anger me.

@andygw - hi, and welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. I anticipate that your feeling pissed off may have to do with losing some aspects of your life as it was before, but I will let you tell about that. You talked about 20 years passing since your brain injury and coma. Will you share a bit more of your story and what you may have lost, and what makes you feel pissed?

@lisalucier that would be me. 20 years later and I'm still pissed off.

It's been 20 years since my brain injury and coma. I still feel like that. But I've learned to give ppl the benefit of the doubt. There is a lot of ugliness but there is more beauty. That's what I do, I look for the good, the beautiful, the ethical and the fair. Sometimes it's tough but I refuse to be a Scrooge the rest of my life.

Dear @natashabb
I read your writing. You were hit during your car accident. I’m sorry.

My life has changed in my life and lost 80% of my brain from my accident. I’m glad you can do better things for you😉

Thx,
Greg D. @greg1956

@natashabb, wondering how you are doing, physically and socially?

Thank you for the message and good luck on your journey.
I recently watched the most beautiful little short film on Apple TV. If you can, ask someone to get it for you. Its called "the boy, the mole, the fox and the horse"
The message in it really stuck with me and helped my thinking quite a lot.
I wish you only peace and happiness x