Primary doctor: How to manage when we disagree?

Posted by suerc @suerc, Sat, Jan 19 10:07am

I could use some help with this. About 5 yrs ago my primary physician retired. I saw him from 18 to 57. Loved him. Now I am at one I like him, but there are some issues that have come. I go to him because he is a weight loss physician non surgical and I have lost 30 lbs seeing him. However in July I broke my back quite seriously . The neurosurgeons in his group let me heal for 6. Mo in a turtle shell and then told me I. Needed a 3 level fusion. As I thought about this I don’t wasn’t a fusion. I first want to try PT to heal. He never once suggested a second opion. He called me in for a apt and road me up and down the walk and asked why I was not having this fusion. So I told him. I have RSD I have had enough pain in my life and I would like to try PT first. He said Neuro said was not a option. I was in tears when I left. So I looked up a couple of ortho surgeons on my own got 2 options. Both looked at all my cats, men’s and took new Cray. Both said my spine was stable. So we can try PT but if my pain level goe up then it’s off to surgery. I agreed. So at my next weight loss visit he was kind of angry. He said do you know the difference between a orthopaedic Dr a a ortho surgeon and I said yes. He’s said one you sure your at the right one.let just put it this way. He was not happy I was not having surgery. But on the flip side I lost 2 pounds. Thinking about switching Dr’s but who do I go to ?

Appears your doctor forgot his place. The doctor seems to ignore who is working for who and needs a not so subtle reminder. I wouldn't go to a doctor who thinks they have Carte Blanche over my care. My doctor was like that but now she’ll ask me before writing a prescription or ordering a test or an injection etc. Now she knows that she can't dictate me and I can't dictate her. We respect each other and our opinions. But that's not to say we didn't have some knockdown drag-outs getting to where we are today.
You have some choices here, accept him as is, change doctors or set him straight;
if you try this chances are he may suggest you find a new doctor.
Good luck with whatever you decide,
Jake

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@suerc I agree with Leonard I had a fractured back was at a Orthopedic Dr he put me in turtle shell then P.T It hurt on land so P.T put me in water was 6 months but my fracture healed without problems There are to many Dr,s that are knife happy Ask P.T to do water therapy tell them if it hurts on land they will contact Dr this is what P.T did for me just suggestion

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@lioness

@suerc I agree with Leonard I had a fractured back was at a Orthopedic Dr he put me in turtle shell then P.T It hurt on land so P.T put me in water was 6 months but my fracture healed without problems There are to many Dr,s that are knife happy Ask P.T to do water therapy tell them if it hurts on land they will contact Dr this is what P.T did for me just suggestion

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@lioness
Excellent advice Linda. I too once had water therapy, much less painful.
Jake

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@jakeduck absolutely easier on the joints

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@jakedduck1

Appears your doctor forgot his place. The doctor seems to ignore who is working for who and needs a not so subtle reminder. I wouldn't go to a doctor who thinks they have Carte Blanche over my care. My doctor was like that but now she’ll ask me before writing a prescription or ordering a test or an injection etc. Now she knows that she can't dictate me and I can't dictate her. We respect each other and our opinions. But that's not to say we didn't have some knockdown drag-outs getting to where we are today.
You have some choices here, accept him as is, change doctors or set him straight;
if you try this chances are he may suggest you find a new doctor.
Good luck with whatever you decide,
Jake

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@thank you leonard

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Anyone else have opinions. I may have a nice talk with him. But I may have to start looking.

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@suerc
Hi again,
Nice, but FIRM!!!

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How do you even go about flinging a new primary Dr. When you have so many problems. RSD ( chronic nerve pain ) recovering from serious compression fracture in July 2018 , depression along with other small things.

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@suerc It's tough I know I have nerve pain, fibromyalgia, fractured back so I see my Rheumatologist, Neurologist and Ortho Dr. I have found for me my PCP only writes referrals used to be a family Dr dealt with everything but it doesn't seem that way anymore So specialist are the ones you need .

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Hi @suerc, I added a bit to the title of your discussion to bring more people in and expand the dialogue. Have you seen this related discussion?
> Your Tips on How to Get Off to the Best Start with a New Specialist https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/your-tips-on-how-to-get-off-to-the-best-start-with-a-new-specialist/

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thankyou so much very helpful.

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