No support at home!

Posted by chocolate5lover @chocolate5lover, Sep 8, 2018

Does anyone else have trouble with–no help at home from family members?

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Amen…I am going to make it a point to do things I want to do. Sleep in till 10, stay up late and watch movies. Go for hikes. Library. Reading, my painting and a gin and tonic every night. Entertain those I wish to and avoid those I wish. It

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We all need love. Love ourselves and love from others. Love the person that you are and the rest should fall into place. Love others whether they love you back or not. It is the act of loving that helps us feel alive. If love comes back to us, all the better. Know that the loving person that you are, is to be appreciated and important and desired and wanted.

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@oregongirl

Amen…I am going to make it a point to do things I want to do. Sleep in till 10, stay up late and watch movies. Go for hikes. Library. Reading, my painting and a gin and tonic every night. Entertain those I wish to and avoid those I wish. It

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Amen to that, Texas Freedom. This illness has taught me how important all you have listed are. and when you mention, "avoiding those I wish", that has never been so important; to protect my health, sanity, and peace. I enjoy a glass of wine nightly

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@suzmay I have a ring doorbell. I will take it with me to Independent living so I can see who is attempting to disturb my peace. LOL

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@IndianaScott

I am so sorry to read this @oregongirl It reminds me of a time when a family member asked me 'how is your caregiving going?' I told him what the prior day had been like and heard from the rest of the family that I was 'whining to get attention'.

I wonder now how prevalent this response is when we simply answer a question on our health or our caregiving duties!

Strength, courage, and peace

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@IndianaScott and @oregongirl

It is hard to believe how insensitive people can be. I'm so sorry that you have both experienced criticism when you are/were trying to be so caring for someone else.

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Hi everyone, I am an Uber driver. I think that Uber is a really good way to get around to grocery shopping, doctor offices, etc. When I have riders that need help carrying groceries I always take the groceries up to the door. There are other people that do doordash and take restaurant meals to people. There are laundry services that will pick up your laundry. There are people that can clean your house and take care of your lawn. You can order groceries delivered. Personally I think its good to use relatives and friends for emotional support and not much more. Just talking and spending time is really important. But I don't see the point of having people take off work to help with housework. I would rather just give money to pay for the housework than take off work, not get paid, and then do the housework for a relative myself. It would be bad for my job. And I just can't do as good a job as people that do it as work. I am terrible at housekeeping and I don't have the equipment. But with Uber driving I have the car, my car is inspected, and I really know the streets and can get people there fast. So that's my input. My caregiver experience is to my developmentally disabled child who is now 27 years old. He needed so much help that I always needed professionals to help. I would have burned my family out to ask them to help me. We always went to a hotel when we were visiting relatives. We never stayed in anybody's house because it would have been too much. I always looked for a hotel with pool. That way we could leave, go back to hotel, and take kids swimming. That's what we did.

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I enjoyed reading all your posts. I get lonely but at least my husband is with me. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and a bone spur in my shoulder. My left knee and neck hurts sometimes. I have 2 toenails that had fungus and were growing inward. They're being treated by a podiatrist. I also have anxiety and depression for a long time. I'm better with that than I was a year ago. My left knee is almost bone on bone. It's hard to know what medicine to use.Thanks for listening. I'm a Christian. Without God and my husband I couldn't make it. God bless you all.

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@ihatediabetes

Hi everyone, I am an Uber driver. I think that Uber is a really good way to get around to grocery shopping, doctor offices, etc. When I have riders that need help carrying groceries I always take the groceries up to the door. There are other people that do doordash and take restaurant meals to people. There are laundry services that will pick up your laundry. There are people that can clean your house and take care of your lawn. You can order groceries delivered. Personally I think its good to use relatives and friends for emotional support and not much more. Just talking and spending time is really important. But I don't see the point of having people take off work to help with housework. I would rather just give money to pay for the housework than take off work, not get paid, and then do the housework for a relative myself. It would be bad for my job. And I just can't do as good a job as people that do it as work. I am terrible at housekeeping and I don't have the equipment. But with Uber driving I have the car, my car is inspected, and I really know the streets and can get people there fast. So that's my input. My caregiver experience is to my developmentally disabled child who is now 27 years old. He needed so much help that I always needed professionals to help. I would have burned my family out to ask them to help me. We always went to a hotel when we were visiting relatives. We never stayed in anybody's house because it would have been too much. I always looked for a hotel with pool. That way we could leave, go back to hotel, and take kids swimming. That's what we did.

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I love using Uber. For over a year now. I have met so many great drivers.

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@pjss48

I enjoyed reading all your posts. I get lonely but at least my husband is with me. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and a bone spur in my shoulder. My left knee and neck hurts sometimes. I have 2 toenails that had fungus and were growing inward. They're being treated by a podiatrist. I also have anxiety and depression for a long time. I'm better with that than I was a year ago. My left knee is almost bone on bone. It's hard to know what medicine to use.Thanks for listening. I'm a Christian. Without God and my husband I couldn't make it. God bless you all.

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@pjss. Praise the Lord. I do not know how people live in this world without the help of Iyr Lord. Won't be long now. We are in the last hours. Hang in therem

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@pjss48

I enjoyed reading all your posts. I get lonely but at least my husband is with me. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and a bone spur in my shoulder. My left knee and neck hurts sometimes. I have 2 toenails that had fungus and were growing inward. They're being treated by a podiatrist. I also have anxiety and depression for a long time. I'm better with that than I was a year ago. My left knee is almost bone on bone. It's hard to know what medicine to use.Thanks for listening. I'm a Christian. Without God and my husband I couldn't make it. God bless you all.

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My wife has a very important job, but I just don't get to see much of her. Her job takes almost all of her time–she works 60 plus hours a week. So I pray a lot, and read my bible. Thanks pjss48 for your posts; it sounds like you have a lot of health challenges yourself. I have found that when my anxiety is out of control, it sure makes my sugar do crazy things (like huge spikes and drops in sugar). Does this happen to you also? May God surround you with His mercy, love, and healing touch. Stay well,my friend!

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Thanks for your comments. I don't have diabetes, but my husband foed, type 2. When I'm anxious I try to figure out why and change the reason, if I can. Depression causes me more trouble . I'm allowed to take a very low dose of Xanax. Half of a .5 mg. I try to focus on thinking positive instead of negative. And doing something in the house or going on an errand. I watch tv too. Hope you do better. God bless.

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