New diagnosis at 50

Posted by mtcoastie @mtcoastie, Nov 21, 2025

Well, I got the news... About 4 weeks ago my Dr told me I had PC. Since then I have, and still go through all the emotions, sad, mad, angry, denial etc... I also have researched my diagnosis, treatment options and next steps(to include reading this forum). I thought I would jump in here with you nice folks instead of just being a tourist. With that being said here is my story. I am 50, My father passed away from PC when he was 72, he was diagnosed at 60 but chose to ignore his disease and also got bad/no info from his provider. My last PSA was 3.9, MRI and biopsy came back with 4/12 cores positive, one less than 10% the other 3 less than 1%, all 3+3 Gleason 6. Had a Polaris report done that puts me at very low risk with a molecular score of 2.2. My Dr is great, and without his proactiveness I probably wouldn't know I had PC. His recommendation is active surveillance, which I fully understand. I don't know if I have the bandwidth to do this.. Im a pretty anxious person by nature so wondering what my cancer is doing seems like a stretch for me. Given my family history I never want to be playing catch up with this disease when I had the chance for probably a cure early. So i'm leaning towards removal, not sure when but in the future. My question(s), Is, am I missing anything? Anybody have a similar story? My Dr said the info that 20-30% of post removal biopsies coming back a higher score is dated and skewed? Feel free to recommend, comment on anything I might have missed etc.. thanks, Pete

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MT - Very similar to my case . My father was diagnosed at 62 , and passed away when he was 67 . This was 28 years ago now. He went on ADT right away but it only helped for about a year or so . There was no other ADT drugs at the time... now many ADT drugs , some to over-lap , many modes of treatment . I had operation and then about 3 years later EBRT of 22 session at PSA of 0.14 ...this brought me down to 0.066 now . EBRT was 2.5 years ago . I see Jeff Michi participated in blog to you - wonderful source of information and research . A nice fellow as well ! Dont forget AS is a treatment plan , and monitoring plan . I was never on it had Gleason 3+4 from the get go ! I like you have problems with anxiety and stress, as I was the only caregiver for my father and spent hours and hours in the palliative care award during his difficult times. I miss my dad so much. He was a very smart man and an engineer, a chemical engineer, but didn't seem to get along with Dr as well and didn't trust the whole process. Prior to an overseas trip with my mother 28 years ago, he did get a PSA test and that's what gave him his diagnosis. I can't remember what his PSA was, but he was 62 at the time and just thinking about retirement. He left it too long for sure. You on the other hand are very proactive and this disease will not get away from you. I can tell. You have this, just be proactive and educate yourself on all the possible therapies. Have at least 2 to 3 doctors to consult with to bounce opinions off of. I will pray for you Sir . James on Vancouver Island .

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@vancouverislandhiker Yes, it's so different now. When I was diagnosed with stage 4 oligometastatic PCa at age 56 back in 2021, they told me to expect basically what your unfortunate dad experienced, probably based on old SEER data.

But fortunately, they still put me on the new treatment modalities (which apparently only three Canadian cancer centres were using regularly back in 2021, all in Ontario, though they're more common now).

Over four years later, I've experienced no progression at all. Nada. We're watching one spot from the last MRI, but it's probably benign, related to my spinal surgery and fusion at that location. PSA remains < 0.01.

Not everyone will be as lucky — and my own story could change suddenly any day — but it's a whole new world out there for those of us with advanced prostate cancer in 2025.

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@vancouverislandhiker Yes, it's so different now. When I was diagnosed with stage 4 oligometastatic PCa at age 56 back in 2021, they told me to expect basically what your unfortunate dad experienced, probably based on old SEER data.

But fortunately, they still put me on the new treatment modalities (which apparently only three Canadian cancer centres were using regularly back in 2021, all in Ontario, though they're more common now).

Over four years later, I've experienced no progression at all. Nada. We're watching one spot from the last MRI, but it's probably benign, related to my spinal surgery and fusion at that location. PSA remains < 0.01.

Not everyone will be as lucky — and my own story could change suddenly any day — but it's a whole new world out there for those of us with advanced prostate cancer in 2025.

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@northoftheborder North , Geee thats luck ! You have done great ! What sort of ADT are you on? I hear it makes a difference ?, I have never been on those things . I hear some ADT is bothersome . But your Bang-On on the change of Landscape now. 25-28 years ago when my dad pass away , I was there . Not a nice way to go . Thye were using "Cobalt" on him in the end . Poor guy . Now we have all sorts of modalities and pills to try and some are very effective ! Just think in another 5-6 years ...there are some very good drugs in the pipeline ! Talk soon North ! James on Vancouver Island

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@northoftheborder North , Geee thats luck ! You have done great ! What sort of ADT are you on? I hear it makes a difference ?, I have never been on those things . I hear some ADT is bothersome . But your Bang-On on the change of Landscape now. 25-28 years ago when my dad pass away , I was there . Not a nice way to go . Thye were using "Cobalt" on him in the end . Poor guy . Now we have all sorts of modalities and pills to try and some are very effective ! Just think in another 5-6 years ...there are some very good drugs in the pipeline ! Talk soon North ! James on Vancouver Island

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@vancouverislandhiker I started on Firmagon, and am currently on Orgovyx, which wasn't yet available in Canada in 2021. They're both GnRH antagonists, so effectively the same thing, but I find the acute side-effects much lessened with a daily pill over a monthly injection (the chronic side-effects of testosterone deprivation are the same, of course).

I'm also on Erleada (Apalutamide), a second-generation ARSI. It used to be that they'd start you on just ADT and then introduce an ARSI only when that failed, but the big realisation (after TITAN, STAMPEDE, and other large trials) is that the outcomes are far better if you start both at the same time while the cancer is still castrate-sensitive. That's certainly been the case for me. I've remained castrate sensitive for over 4 years, while the expectation before was only 18-24 months.

Another change from the past is that they'll now radiate the prostate (and any metastases) with curative intent for oligometastatic prostate cancer. With stage 4, they used to think "why bother, he's dying anyway, just keep him comfortable" but it also turns that it makes huge difference acting as if you can cure oligometastatic prostate cancer, even if the jury's still out on whether it's possible.

Finally, I had that emergency debulking surgery to preserve my mobility. Normally they wouldn't do that, especially near the spine, since it was very high-risk surgery, but it was either that or life paralysed in a hospital bed. Since I didn't die on the operating table, I ended up with a significant reduction in tumour load before the post-op radiation, and that has probably also helped. I wouldn't recommend running that risk, though, unless it was a forced play like it was for me.

If I'd been diagnosed a couple of years earlier, or if I'd lived in a different city (or even had a different radiation oncologist), I might have just been treated palliatively, like they used to do for all stage-4 prostate cancer, and I'd could have been either very sick or deceased by now. My cancer centre, as I mentioned, was one of the few in Canada recognising "oligometasatic" as a separate category and treating it aggressively back in 2021, just like at Mayo. I'll never buy a lottery ticket, because I think I've already used up my full lifetime quota of luck.

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@vancouverislandhiker I started on Firmagon, and am currently on Orgovyx, which wasn't yet available in Canada in 2021. They're both GnRH antagonists, so effectively the same thing, but I find the acute side-effects much lessened with a daily pill over a monthly injection (the chronic side-effects of testosterone deprivation are the same, of course).

I'm also on Erleada (Apalutamide), a second-generation ARSI. It used to be that they'd start you on just ADT and then introduce an ARSI only when that failed, but the big realisation (after TITAN, STAMPEDE, and other large trials) is that the outcomes are far better if you start both at the same time while the cancer is still castrate-sensitive. That's certainly been the case for me. I've remained castrate sensitive for over 4 years, while the expectation before was only 18-24 months.

Another change from the past is that they'll now radiate the prostate (and any metastases) with curative intent for oligometastatic prostate cancer. With stage 4, they used to think "why bother, he's dying anyway, just keep him comfortable" but it also turns that it makes huge difference acting as if you can cure oligometastatic prostate cancer, even if the jury's still out on whether it's possible.

Finally, I had that emergency debulking surgery to preserve my mobility. Normally they wouldn't do that, especially near the spine, since it was very high-risk surgery, but it was either that or life paralysed in a hospital bed. Since I didn't die on the operating table, I ended up with a significant reduction in tumour load before the post-op radiation, and that has probably also helped. I wouldn't recommend running that risk, though, unless it was a forced play like it was for me.

If I'd been diagnosed a couple of years earlier, or if I'd lived in a different city (or even had a different radiation oncologist), I might have just been treated palliatively, like they used to do for all stage-4 prostate cancer, and I'd could have been either very sick or deceased by now. My cancer centre, as I mentioned, was one of the few in Canada recognising "oligometasatic" as a separate category and treating it aggressively back in 2021, just like at Mayo. I'll never buy a lottery ticket, because I think I've already used up my full lifetime quota of luck.

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@northoftheborder
An interesting change of medical advice. Rick Davis who runs ancan.org Always told people they should eventually treat the primary. He told people over and over that even though their case seemed to be extreme that they needed to get the primary treated at some point.

Then about two months ago, some new medical advice came out about this issue. Apparently, with people who had very advanced prostate cancer cases there was no benefit to treating the prostate. It had no effect on their survival. It was strange to see him change his tune, But he followed that advice and told people that he believed they should treat it unless the case was quite advanced.

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@vancouverislandhiker I started on Firmagon, and am currently on Orgovyx, which wasn't yet available in Canada in 2021. They're both GnRH antagonists, so effectively the same thing, but I find the acute side-effects much lessened with a daily pill over a monthly injection (the chronic side-effects of testosterone deprivation are the same, of course).

I'm also on Erleada (Apalutamide), a second-generation ARSI. It used to be that they'd start you on just ADT and then introduce an ARSI only when that failed, but the big realisation (after TITAN, STAMPEDE, and other large trials) is that the outcomes are far better if you start both at the same time while the cancer is still castrate-sensitive. That's certainly been the case for me. I've remained castrate sensitive for over 4 years, while the expectation before was only 18-24 months.

Another change from the past is that they'll now radiate the prostate (and any metastases) with curative intent for oligometastatic prostate cancer. With stage 4, they used to think "why bother, he's dying anyway, just keep him comfortable" but it also turns that it makes huge difference acting as if you can cure oligometastatic prostate cancer, even if the jury's still out on whether it's possible.

Finally, I had that emergency debulking surgery to preserve my mobility. Normally they wouldn't do that, especially near the spine, since it was very high-risk surgery, but it was either that or life paralysed in a hospital bed. Since I didn't die on the operating table, I ended up with a significant reduction in tumour load before the post-op radiation, and that has probably also helped. I wouldn't recommend running that risk, though, unless it was a forced play like it was for me.

If I'd been diagnosed a couple of years earlier, or if I'd lived in a different city (or even had a different radiation oncologist), I might have just been treated palliatively, like they used to do for all stage-4 prostate cancer, and I'd could have been either very sick or deceased by now. My cancer centre, as I mentioned, was one of the few in Canada recognising "oligometasatic" as a separate category and treating it aggressively back in 2021, just like at Mayo. I'll never buy a lottery ticket, because I think I've already used up my full lifetime quota of luck.

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@northoftheborder North , what an interesting and positive story . WOW , you got lucky with that double treatment method . I have heard guys on that for years and years w/o any problems. Amazing . What city do you live in or area ? Fascinating story ! I will say a prayer for you Sir ! James on Vancouver Island .

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@northoftheborder
An interesting change of medical advice. Rick Davis who runs ancan.org Always told people they should eventually treat the primary. He told people over and over that even though their case seemed to be extreme that they needed to get the primary treated at some point.

Then about two months ago, some new medical advice came out about this issue. Apparently, with people who had very advanced prostate cancer cases there was no benefit to treating the prostate. It had no effect on their survival. It was strange to see him change his tune, But he followed that advice and told people that he believed they should treat it unless the case was quite advanced.

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@jeffmarc Thanks for sharing that.

It sounds like Rick Davis has decided to align himself with the STAMPEDE finding published in 2018, showing that there was a significant overall-survival improvement from radiating the primary/prostate for cancer with "low metastatic burden" (aka oligometastatic), but not with "high metastatic burden".

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I’m 80 and was diagnosed with Stage IV prostate cancer at 76.
I would encourage anyone diagnosed with prostate cancer to watch these videos.
I can truthfully say they saved my life.
Best wishes!


DIY Combat Manual for Prostate Cancer
Prostate Research Cancer Institute

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3+3 is good, its low. Its the lowest definition of cancer.

Having said that, cancer is always moving, adapting

My thinking is radiation is better path if you are interested in erections? Im not

Many ppl in your situation are advised to watch and wait (for what? For it to get worse?)

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@jeffmarc Thanks for sharing that.

It sounds like Rick Davis has decided to align himself with the STAMPEDE finding published in 2018, showing that there was a significant overall-survival improvement from radiating the primary/prostate for cancer with "low metastatic burden" (aka oligometastatic), but not with "high metastatic burden".

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@northoftheborder Yes, you have to wonder how close to the end those patients with high metastatic burden really were.
I mean, people DO still die from PCa today even with all the drugs and treatments medicine has to offer, right?
So treating the primary source of cancer was probably a case of ‘too little, too late’ in those cases…
Phil

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@northoftheborder Yes, you have to wonder how close to the end those patients with high metastatic burden really were.
I mean, people DO still die from PCa today even with all the drugs and treatments medicine has to offer, right?
So treating the primary source of cancer was probably a case of ‘too little, too late’ in those cases…
Phil

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@heavyphil
Yes Ryan Sanburg died recently of PC-however, I believe many of the recent fatalities ( OJ Simpson, Wm Hurt, Dennis Hopper) famous and unknown, do not seek treatment early and often are too busy to take the medications or commit to radiation schedule...they are not having real symptoms ( yet) and /or dont trust the doctors etc...where I get radiation, we had one come for 1 session and never came back ( that I know of)..they roll the dice and some live a good while longer, some do not..

My dad had non Hodgkins lymphoma -diagnosed in 1990 or so- he had surgery and then took 4 of scheduled 12 chemo sessions. He never went back..we were upset with him, as was his oncologist. However Pa stood firm...he lived 28 more yrs before it came back ferociously and took him in about 6 months..he again didn want any treatment ( which prob would have extended his life) Pa out lived his oncologist and never looked back on his decision.. he said he didn like the way chemo made him feel and that was that..he had once been 2 pack /day Lucky Strike smoker ( 30 yrs) worked 50 yrs for oil company ( which is prob how he got lymphoma from benzene contact)...at any rate, some do survive cancer all by themselves, most do not..Pa did eat lots of broccoli and salmon and rode his stationary bike 7 mi/day and took vitamin C...thats it..he enjoyed life up until 101 or so..then downhill. ( below pic is Pa on 100 birthday- wanted to smoke some pot and then we got ice cream.he said" best damn ice cream I ever had !)

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