New and ... feeling dread and unease of the times

Posted by robbie1956 @robbie1956, Apr 30 3:57pm

Hi, I’m new to the Mayo Clinic forums…like all, very aware of the times and I am very uncertain about everything….even trips to the store are laced with a feeling of unease…we wear masks and gloves, but sometimes at night I wake up with a feeling of dread..
The old line out of the Ancient Mariner comes to mind,
“Like one who on a lonesome road does walk in fear and dread, because he knows a frightful fiend does close behind him tread”…so glad to become a part of this forum…too much isolation….

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Welcome to Connect, @robbie1956. Great to see you here. What brings you to Mayo Connect? I liked the word you used…."unease". That is the way most of us feel at least part of the time. It is difficult to deal with uncertainty even for the Ancient Mariner.

What brought you to our community of members and mentors, moderators, and caregivers? Our vision is to improve the quality of life for all of the Mayo Connect members of which there are more than 90,000. We cannot diagnose or prescribe. Our medical education comes from sharing our own experiences with others who have walked our path.

How would you like to begin??????
Be content and at ease,
Chris

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@artscaping

Welcome to Connect, @robbie1956. Great to see you here. What brings you to Mayo Connect? I liked the word you used…."unease". That is the way most of us feel at least part of the time. It is difficult to deal with uncertainty even for the Ancient Mariner.

What brought you to our community of members and mentors, moderators, and caregivers? Our vision is to improve the quality of life for all of the Mayo Connect members of which there are more than 90,000. We cannot diagnose or prescribe. Our medical education comes from sharing our own experiences with others who have walked our path.

How would you like to begin??????
Be content and at ease,
Chris

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I was guided here by some dedicated people from previous discussion groups….I had read their situations and their courage.
I found it was something I needed to be a part of…..I am retired and every time I put on masks and gloves to go to the store,
I feel like I am part of any number of sci-fi pictures from the past….and I used the words unease because I just couldn’t think of anything else..it is a feeling of unease….and in the early wee hours, when I’m awake, it seems to be very gripping…..at least for awhile….then it subsides…..like most of us, I have my share of medical problems and don’t wish to catch this awful thing…
At times I feel isolated and lonely…I know of others who are the same way, some too afraid to even go outside….
Thanks so much for the warm welcome, and I will monitor this discussion group…so glad it is here, and thank you Chris.

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Hi@robbie1956, Here's another welcome and also a thank you for both the fitting line from the Ancient Mariner for these uncertain times and also for your use of the word, "unease" which best describes the discomfort I feel at times but haven't been able to come up with a better word. "Unease" is that vague dread that briefly descends out of nowhere sometimes without any immediately definitive cause and then passes when I recognize it as the covid culprit just bedeviling my peace of mind. Looking forward to getting better acquainted. There are many sub-threads like walking, just want to talk, gardenng, visual escapes and other interests where we can share and support one another. Regardless of our various health issues, we are all experiencing new challenges during this time of uncertainty. Welcome aboard.

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fiesty76 – I love your definition of unease.

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Robbie 1956 – That Ancient Mariner passage is a little too close for comfort!

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@fiesty76

Hi@robbie1956, Here's another welcome and also a thank you for both the fitting line from the Ancient Mariner for these uncertain times and also for your use of the word, "unease" which best describes the discomfort I feel at times but haven't been able to come up with a better word. "Unease" is that vague dread that briefly descends out of nowhere sometimes without any immediately definitive cause and then passes when I recognize it as the covid culprit just bedeviling my peace of mind. Looking forward to getting better acquainted. There are many sub-threads like walking, just want to talk, gardenng, visual escapes and other interests where we can share and support one another. Regardless of our various health issues, we are all experiencing new challenges during this time of uncertainty. Welcome aboard.

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Thanks, and I will keep in touch with this discussion group….us, unease has worked it’s way into people’s lives these days.
I am grateful that it comes, and then let’s up when I get going a bit….I try not to listen to the TV and Radio a lot…it’s too much of the same, even when it’s an update….but this Mayo Clinic forum with it’s discussion and topic groups is a nice place to be these days….thanks for your warm welcome……🙂

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@zep

Robbie 1956 – That Ancient Mariner passage is a little too close for comfort!

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Yes, it is….a little like taking an old car on a long trip in the days of no cellphones…..

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@robbie1956

Yes, it is….a little like taking an old car on a long trip in the days of no cellphones…..

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Very apt simile. And that was something that I thought nothing of in the good old, bad old days of my youth!

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Unease – what a great descriptor for the feeling these days! We just traveled 3 days cross country from winter to summer home, and I worried, fretted and planned for weeks. Phew! We are home – with awe at how many are ignoring the issues of social distancing, face covering, cleaning… 3 days of truck stops and rest areas, 2 motels – thankfully we had all our own food. I have great admiration for those facing the public and praying to stay well.
Now we will quarantine for 2 weeks in our still closed down state, then try to figure out when we'll feel comfortable beginning to move around.
Sue

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@sueinmn Glad you made it home safe 🙏

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@robbie1956 Hi – I wanted to properly welcome you to Mayo Connect, and encourage you to look around for information that may help you in this most unsettling time. Yesterday I was working from my (mostly uncooperative) tablet, and unable to locate the following free course on handling our anxiety, I have found it helpful and so have my daughters. https://www.coursera.org/learn/manage-health-covid-19. Last night my husband was complaining about feeling anxious, so I plan to ask him to look at it as well. I'm guessing his feelings arose from the abrupt change from 7 weeks of total stay-at-home safety in a small community to 3 days of totally uncontrolled public travel since we both have serious underlying health issues that make us vulnerable.
Like you, I have been limiting my exposure to media (not just TV & radio, but social as well.) Some other things that help me a lot are exercise (mostly daily walking), contact (mostly virtual) with family & friends and distraction (sewing, reading, painting…) What works for you when you get that restless feeling?
Sue

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@zeiracorp What a great philosophy! "Know you are doing everything you can, then try to find reassurance in that. If you are getting 'worked-up' about things, it would be a really good time to turn off the COVID-19 constant media drama and try to concentrate for at least a little while on something that occupies your mind in a positive way – reading, movie, exercise. And it is a great time to rely on whatever faith you follow."
As a rebel child of the '60's, I am perhaps less worried about the current draconian measures becoming permanent because once the threat has passed, I am convinced they will not be tolerated by the public (including me.) But I do understand the need to impose them, because prior to them being mandatory in our county, almost everyone thought it was OK to ignore them in this "me, me, me" society.
The same for the alarmist messaging and images – without them, until directly & personally affected, people believe "this can't possibly be happening."
I look at our group here as a way to reassure people – especially those whose anxiety goes into overdrive, like with your hand washing example.
Thank you for being one of the voices of reason and reassurance.
Sue

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Unease… yes, a good word for it. I am not frightened.. at least I do not think I am. I told my husband that I slept, but feel very tired. I have felt like I have awoken from a nightmare, but have no recall of dreaming. He said he is the same.

My county, Dougherty, is a hot spot in Georgia at 123 covid deaths .. many that have died had chronic conditions, but many did not. We plan on continuing our shelter in place.. just brief outings to purchase the essentials, and going to the doctor when necessary. We take all safety precautions we can… my husband does the shopping. It does not bother me to be home so much.. he is a people person though. My 92 year old mama is in a nursing home. I miss her so much. I phone her daily, but it just is not the same as hugging her.

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Oh, that is so sad. I wish you could hug your mama.

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@sueinmn

@robbie1956 Hi – I wanted to properly welcome you to Mayo Connect, and encourage you to look around for information that may help you in this most unsettling time. Yesterday I was working from my (mostly uncooperative) tablet, and unable to locate the following free course on handling our anxiety, I have found it helpful and so have my daughters. https://www.coursera.org/learn/manage-health-covid-19. Last night my husband was complaining about feeling anxious, so I plan to ask him to look at it as well. I'm guessing his feelings arose from the abrupt change from 7 weeks of total stay-at-home safety in a small community to 3 days of totally uncontrolled public travel since we both have serious underlying health issues that make us vulnerable.
Like you, I have been limiting my exposure to media (not just TV & radio, but social as well.) Some other things that help me a lot are exercise (mostly daily walking), contact (mostly virtual) with family & friends and distraction (sewing, reading, painting…) What works for you when you get that restless feeling?
Sue

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Hello Sue, thank you for welcoming me and sharing your situation…my “unease” came again, and it usually does in the wee morning hours (usually accompanied by having to make frequent trips to the bathroom)…I can get these feelings in a Target, like today….or in the supermarket…..and a lot of times very late at night…..I usually watch old vintage films, film noirs, sci-fi classics,
(War of the Worlds) 1953 is actually coming out on Blu Ray via Shout/Scream factory..these old innocent films from my childhood give me comfort…but, when I get the “unease” – it’s the worst, in those early a.m. hours of consciousness, horrible scenarios…..being left alone, with nobody to turn to for help….then panic for awhile….
Like many of us, I have underlying health conditions that limit my intake of any kind of “spirits”….the best thing I do, try to keep moving….I also walk, I try to get 7000 steps + a day, practice guitar scales and theory and lean on my poor wife, who also has health concerns….but I feel for the person who has nobody to live with and has to go this alone…I hope this gives you some idea as to what I do…..you seem to be doing well and the right things….I definitely have to stay off the cable networks…..thanks again, and so glad I am on this wonderful discussion group….

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