My partner minimized my achievement

Posted by ehdog @ehdog, 2 hours ago

I have some medical trauma, and I never really speak up in medical settings.

Today after being on anti anxiety medication, I did. I told my psychiatrist all my symptoms of my OCD and anxiety and she wrote it down. I never do that. I always keep it to myself because I'm scared in some way.

The person that was with me was proud of me and gloated about how brave I was and my partner basically implied what I did was nothing and equated me to a scared dog at a vet.

Please don't say leave my partner because I can't but I feel awful. Like nothing I achieve matters. My trauma doesn't matter.

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Wala | @ashlynnmae | 2 hours ago

I’m saying this as a medical professional, f*ck your partner for that. What he said was out of line and dismissive as hell, and you’re allowed to tell him it hurt you.

What you did today wasn’t small. Speaking up like that, especially with trauma and OCD, goes directly against what your brain has learned to do. That takes real effort and control, that’s not nothing.

Some people downplay things they don’t understand. That doesn’t make it okay, but it can explain why he reacted that way.

It still doesn’t change the reality, what you did matters. It had SO MUCH weight.

You did something a lot of people struggle to do even on stronger anxiety meds. It’s the kind of progress clinicians wish they saw more often.

Phoenix | @kudzu | 1 hour ago

So sorry a person who is supposed to care about you and support you hurt you like that.
Please tell the therapist about it. Putting down the other person can be one step in an abusive relationship.
Maybe the dr will have some ideas about how to handle this relationship.
Maybe you can talk about why you feel you can’t leave the partner.
I’m glad you had someone with you who was supportive.