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Mom's death

Posted by debra54 @debra54, Feb 13 1:39am

Watching my moms body die while she was on a ventilator was heartbreaking. She had moved back home with me but we only got 1 week before she ended in hospital but the most stressful part was my brother. He made everything a bigger problem. From taking her off ventilator to money. He made such a fuss bout a 3,000$ life insurance policy. I couldn't even mourn my mother's death in peace. He never came too see her cuz he didn't want to see her that way but the rest of the family did. He never said " how you doing or thank you". He was so selfish thru all of this. Thank God I had other family to lean on!

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Deb | @dkmielke54 | Feb 13 6:58am

My thoughts are with you. I am sorry for your brothers behaviour, totally inappropriate. The loss of your mom is hard and the grief journey ahead will be difficult. I ptay you will find comfort from the Holy Spirirt to lessen the pain, and to blanket you in peace and calm

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debra54 | @debra54 | Feb 13 10:55am

Thru prayer I have found peace cuz now,my brothers want her ashes divided between the 3 of us but I feel her ashes should stay together and be buried so I've ordered a memorial plaque and I have a shelf just for her and I'll let my brothers have all her ashes. This gives me peace and allows me to remove myself from there drama.

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justurtle | @justurtle | Feb 15 12:08am

Very sorry your mom has passed. Can’t imagine how you must feel. Wonderful that you have some family members who grieve with you hopefully comforting one another.
Sad that your brother is having a difficult time processing his grief. Prayers for you and all who grieve your mom.

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blueboy68 | @blueboy68 | May 29 1:02pm

I so feel your pain I watched my mom deteriorate and die on a ventilator as well. The worst thing I have ever gone through. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I was an only child and went through the whole ordeal alone. What is left of my family has not been much of a support. I have never suffered a more profound loss than the loss of my mom. I feel like I am on the verge of a mental breakdown.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Jun 9 1:48pm
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I so feel your pain I watched my mom deteriorate and die on a ventilator as well. The worst thing I have ever gone through. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I was an only child and went through the whole ordeal alone. What is left of my family has not been much of a support. I have never suffered a more profound loss than the loss of my mom. I feel like I am on the verge of a mental breakdown.

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@blueboy68, losing your mom is a loss like no other. I know @debra54 understands first-hand seeing a loved one on a ventilator. It takes time for the memory of the last days to become surrounded by the fuller memories of everything your mom was and remains in your memories.

Have you connected with a therapist or bereavement support group to help you through this especially challenging time? Do you have a special happy memory of your mom that you'd like to share?

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