Husband fell off golf cart, had brain injury, looking for hope
My husband is 40 years old and fell off a golf cart and sustained frontal lobes and temporal lobe contusions leading to a craniotomy 70 days ago. He was sedated and paralyzed medically for 14 days. Since he woke up he is walking, talking, doing all his care and is home. This has been such a roller coaster. He does not have understanding of his injury and on his bad days will feel like the doctors and therapists don't want him to get his license or go to work again. He has good days. We had 6 in a row. On those days I see so much of him. He still has cognition issues that he does not see. I keep telling myself we are early in this journey and things can get better, but can it? I need some hope. I see some scary stories out there. It is hard not to let my thoughts go dark. Today has been a rough day. I am so tired of crying.
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@pamorr12 - welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. So sorry to hear about your fall. Falling from an attic sounds frightening.
My sympathies, also, for the loss of your dog.
Did you fall down a ladder to the attic? Did you settle on a doctor to treat you for the dizziness? If so, with what medication or therapy are you being treated?
I fell from my moms attic a year and half ago. I'm dizzy but no one seems to know why. I lost my dog to cancer about six mo ago and that is when dizziness started. I was on a lot of meds from an aging Dr. I would like to think it's meds but three drs think it's from the fall
@nancythereser Thank you! He has turned a corner in this last week. Obviously, there are still struggles and a long road ahead, but I can see him. And I think he finally is remembering that he and I don't quit on each other. I am getting kisses and hugs daily again. My heart still breaks every time I think about what he and I have gone through. No one deserves this, but he is strong. WE are strong. And Love truly is the best medicine I know of.
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5 ReactionsI understand your frustration and that you hurt for your husband and what is still lingering.
My husband is in your shoes. I see the hurt in his eyes as I stumble or have to play guess what I'm saying. Words, understanding instructions, tipping over as I look up to get my clothes or look at the stars.
However the love that shines in my husband's eyes gives me strength to keep smiling,to laugh and love right back
Be strong but you crying is a beautiful thing it's all the love you have for him and I bet he sees it in your eyes too.
Sending you a big hug
Nancy
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3 ReactionsHi,
I'm so sorry that your poor husband has this problem! How awful for the both of you. However, it sounds like he's doing better. Give him some time and just pray and have faith. God will take control and make everything work out as it should. I know it's hard to care for a person that you love so much and to see them have problems. I took care of my husband when he had lung cancer. It can be very stressful. But remember that is the person you fell in love with and he needs your help. Tell him how much you love him because there may come a time when you won't be able to tell him that. My husband died in 2024. I would give anything to be able to tell him one more time in person how much I loved him.
I will say a prayer for the both of you.
I wish you the best.
PML
Thank you for the post 📫 it was nice to read your message. Im not a doctor just someone who had a brain tumor removed last year. Saying there are a lot of people who care on these sights and welcome to the group
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2 ReactionsI found the that BrainLine.org was very helpful articles lost and found and articles under related helped me understand what with my brain was happening. Articles like what not to say to me. Ways to help people understand what I am going through. I lost my smell,taste and more emotion been 2 years. I have my good days and bad days.
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3 ReactionsHi all,
Having a TBI member is great to all of us and some or most has been a member from different ways close to you area or online for you And your TBI users.
For me, 13 years ago that day just before I am going to work, but exercise one block on my bicycle. Well, my bike was adding a day before to add part of the riding and it hit my new way of the professional worker. it looked and hit the top of my left top-side of my brain. My life changed. I lost my memory, understanding, walking. I spent time at hospitals and became a hole-in-the-head. That head helped and helps my water inside my brain-needs.
Today, my life is alive but I can’t understand or memories before that. It’s gone, but my memory, for the last 3 years - when started - is sorta back. Part of my memory lost what songs when I play my guitars is gone but I can play my guitar but my memory uses is not there. I loved working at my city; is gone. I was one close to my master-degree, but that ended.
Thankfully I’m happy with my great wife and the rest of my family And I’m here ♥️
Thx,
Greg D. @greg1956
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6 ReactionsThe brain is and amazing organ God made us to heal physically and mentally ! I believe the brain 🧠 is complex but is able to heal from mild to major trauma. It’s going to take time but continue seeing your amazing doctors and find support groups to help you on your journey . There is hope keep enjoying those good days and keep positive !
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2 ReactionsHello and welcome to the brain injury world. My injury happened 22 years ago from falling down a ladder, had a craniotomy, spent a year for speech and occupational therapy, joined a group support group, and most importantly I am still recovering. When you had your 1st child born you probably bought a book to tell you what to expect weekly/monthly/yearly. There is no such book for brain injuries. Each injury is different person to person. Keep a notebook/journal/calendar to write down good things that happened today... like "yesterday I couldn't do ???, today I did it", or maybe, "I remembered to change the cat litter box without being told". Little things are just as
important as big things. Write them down as things you gained. It's hard, but don't worry about things he can't do, love what he can do. We do get better but it takes time. It takes a lot of energy for our brains to rewire itself. And rewiring itself is exactly what is going on. See if there is a local support group he can walk in, even just once, so he knows he is not alone. Meeting other survivors helped me. Believe in him, help him believe in himself.
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