Just diagnosed: Surgery not an option, looking for hope

@jofree Thank you for the kind words, and yes, I will support him whatever he decides . He is a good son to me and has been a big help the last few years. Thank you, and I hope all is well with your daughter as well.

@quimbie
Good morning @quimbie,
Things sound a bit scary at these times: Trusting in others and oneself can be very challenging and at times creates more apprehension. I have a daughter who will be 61 this month and she has lived in the British and U.S. Virgin Islands on and off for some 20 years. Currently, she resides in the states, and she and I have had similar conversations such as you and your son. We can only share our experiences and listen to their responses: In this way, both parties have additional opportunities for deeper understandings of any situations and I, personally believe, that just being there, involved in any conversation with our children, usually turns out to be fruitful. Usually, we are never aware that we have helped, but life kind of works itself for the better sometimes, if we just have a bit of faith in ourselves and others.
Keep on encouraging him and listening to him; sometimes that is all our job as parents allows us to do. He's fortunate to have you in his life and it sounds like he is quite responsible for the management of his human needs and limitations. And, of course, always have faith in tomorrows.
Jofree

My son was diagnosed in Jan.25, and he had chemo and radiation, and the mass is gone, but had a spot where penetrated the colon wall. Cancer mass was in sphincter. The doctor tells him he will never be cured and recommends surgery. Son says no to surgery and he is treating himself with diet, vitamins, and can't even remember the supplements he is taking. He researched all this and came up with this plan. He feels good and looks great and I suggest he at least speak to surgeon but said no but he may decide too later on. He is 51 always healthy and eats keto diet, exercises, so a shock to find the cancer. I pray for him and I will pray for you too. He is strict with his routine and has the discipline to do so. Fighting for your life can give you the discipline. Prayers for you and my son.

Xeloda worked on me for a year

@isokenka, how did the scan go? What did you find out?

Hi. I am 49 years old and I was diagnosed with a colon tumor and metastases in the liver and a couple of lymph nodes. There is a small chance of surgery if the metastases give in. I have gone through 6 chemotherapy cycles and once in Germany for TACE treatment. The trip to Germany was really tough and I wonder if I got too many toxins into my body for one day. The day after tomorrow, 2.12, I will have another scan and I hope it has not spread. The result of the previous scan was a decrease in the tumor and metastases and that gave me hope. I have also tried to exercise when I can, eat a keto diet, take cold baths, and have high-pressure oxygen treatments. Whatever was done, I hope that we all get at least a little good news in the future and that we can live a long life with our families.

@vernscw
Thanks for your writing: It is imperative to provide authoritative references which assist individuals in balancing their options. Knowing, even just a little of referenced materials, can relieve anxiety and help individuals with conversations with each potential care provider. Jofree

@vcsongradi I have KRAS G12S so there are few options except clinical trials. I may get the genotyping redone and get second opinion also because this mutation is quite limiting for treatment.

Thanks for all the responses. I enjoy reading about the experiences of others. It does inspire me and gives me hope. I have an appointment for another opinion/possible treatment options at MD Anderson in Houston in March. They only do in person appointments (I live in Indiana) so I will have to go there, but spring is a great time to go to Texas. I lived in Beaumont, TX, for about 5 years during Hurricane Harvey and the subsequent hurricane when I decided I needed to relocate to Indiana for better weather. I am able to enjoy all four seasons here which is fantastic for my state of mind. Before my last scheduled maintenance chemo, it was discovered that I had a lung infection so I was started on antibiotics and the chemo infusion was cancelled. I go in tomorrow for lab, oncology appointment AND infusion on the same day! So thankful for that change in schedule so that means only two days of appointments instead of three like it had been previously.

In answer to some questions above, I have had my tumor genotyped, and it is nothing that can benefit from targeted therapy as the microsatellite instability is low. I was told by the nurse at MD Anderson that their CT scan equipment is much more sensitive and can pick up things that others do not. He also told me that many times cancer is misdiagnosed (?) and it is actually some other type of disorder, virus or cellular disease. Not sure that is the case, so I will find out more in March. He also said there are other possible treatment options, so I'm hoping for positive news there.

I'm in a better state of mind today than I was when I wrote the previous update. I still feel like I'm in limbo when it comes to end of life planning. I don't feel it's urgent to get things in order completely, but it is in the back of my mind. I know many people who die in accidents that don't have any thoughts about their life ending, so in that way I do feel fortunate.

Thank you for your support and encouragement. Your strength and positive attitudes are definitely inspiring to me and hopefully to others at the same time.

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I am 56 and first was diagnosed with stage I colon cancer in 2021 at 52. I got surgery Jan 2022, which was optional (to be sure it was gone) and all lymph nodes negative. About a year and a half later, I had a recurrence in my peritoneum. After another colectomy in 2024 and CAPOX chemo after, they told me I had stage IV. They would not give me a prognosis because they said my recurrence was so rare. This was frustrating because we had hoped we took care of it with radical surgery the first time. I have had surveillance every 3 months with scans, bloodwork and Signatera (which I had done research on and wanted to add). I have had normal scans and signatera for a year and 5 months now I suddenly have a positive Signatera (minimum residual disease) Test. This means I have a 97% chance of another recurrence and there is cancer DNA in my blood that matches my original tumor. My type of gene mutation (KRAS G12S) is only found in 1.86 percent of colon cancer patients and does not respond to immunotherapy. I am looking at clinical trials now. I wanted to post because I feel your frustration and struggle to find hope during colon cancer and can understand your fears. I think there is a lot of good research going on for cures. I will be praying for healing and peace for you. My faith is what helps me. The emotional toll of cancer is something that is often overlooked and is, for me, the worst part. I am adding you to my list of daily prayers. I not only wish you time, but time with minimal feeling sick and free from having to only eat bland, lukewarm things. That was the hardest part of chemo for me...and always being tired. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. The signatera test has given me some peace of mind for about a year, but now it is positive. So I am hoping for some clinical trial treatment before the mets recur again because we know it is already in my blood. Just found this out so waiting to see what the onco says...hes on vacation so I am left waiting...that alone should not be a thing..someone should be discussing my test results with me by now.