Isolation: How Do We Handle it?

Posted by Teresa, Volunteer Mentor @hopeful33250, Mar 16, 2020

As boundaries are being mandated in order to prevent the spread of COVID-19, these boundaries are affecting every area of our lives. Many hospitals, assisted living facilities, places of worship, libraries, restaurants, community centers are being closed to visitors and public gatherings. For many of us, these keep us from our typical ways of connecting with others and engaging with a supportive community.

What are you doing to keep yourself connected?

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@shortshot80

Don't understand this vacation dwelliing email. I own my home. nothing to do with renting of any kind. Nancy

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You and I bought places we intended to live in, but our area is so handy to Salem and the valley that people buy houses here with no plan to use them, now or later, just rent them nightly through one of the rental agencies in town. People have to make a bit of an effort to get to your town as it's not right at the end of the highway from a metro area. Ours is. When I bought this place almost 60 years ago, I had no idea that someday at least a quarter of the houses in my community would be nightly rentals. I thought that all the hundreds of acres of old growth spruce forest and some second growth alder forest would always be here. How stupid I was!

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@joyces

You and I bought places we intended to live in, but our area is so handy to Salem and the valley that people buy houses here with no plan to use them, now or later, just rent them nightly through one of the rental agencies in town. People have to make a bit of an effort to get to your town as it's not right at the end of the highway from a metro area. Ours is. When I bought this place almost 60 years ago, I had no idea that someday at least a quarter of the houses in my community would be nightly rentals. I thought that all the hundreds of acres of old growth spruce forest and some second growth alder forest would always be here. How stupid I was!

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hEOO, yES i LIVE IN PACIFIC CITY, HAVE LIVED HERE SINCEi' 1986M BEFOR THAT WE LIVE HRE AS LONG AS WE WANTED TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. . wE HAVE FOUR LOTS PUT UP A GARAGE. wE UPGRADED THE 5 FOOT LONG GARAAGE RIGHT AND WE MADE SURE THAT IS WAS N THE WRIGHT PLACE. tHAT WAS MAD. sO NOW WE HAVE MOST EVERYTHING IN IT'S RIGHT PLACE.

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@shortshot80

hEOO, yES i LIVE IN PACIFIC CITY, HAVE LIVED HERE SINCEi' 1986M BEFOR THAT WE LIVE HRE AS LONG AS WE WANTED TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. . wE HAVE FOUR LOTS PUT UP A GARAGE. wE UPGRADED THE 5 FOOT LONG GARAAGE RIGHT AND WE MADE SURE THAT IS WAS N THE WRIGHT PLACE. tHAT WAS MAD. sO NOW WE HAVE MOST EVERYTHING IN IT'S RIGHT PLACE.

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@shortshot80
Nancy, It sounds like you have a lovely home!

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@hopeful33250

@shortshot80
Nancy, It sounds like you have a lovely home!

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i REALLY DO, wHEN bOB AND i WERE FISHING WH ACCUMULATED LOTS OF DIFFERENT FLOATS. wE rICHARD AND HIS FRIEND HAVE NEED COLLECTION MORE FLOATS WHEN THEY ARE DOWN ON THE BEACH. i WANT THEM ON THE FENCE MAYBE AROUND THE FENSE OF THE YARD. i THINK THEY ARE NEAT AND ENJOY LOOKING AT THEM. dON'T CARE WAHT HAPPENS AFTER i'M GONE BUT WHILE IAM HERE i LIKE THEM. i HAD TWO REALLY LAREGE ONES AND SOME AH STOLE THEM OVE NEW YEAR EARS EVE 219. some HOW SOME WAY SOMEDAY THEY WILL BE pAID BACK. wHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. paybacks ARE hELL. anyway THAT WHAT i THHINK. nANCY dID YOU GET THE BOOK YET? aMAZON $13099

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@shortshot80

hEOO, yES i LIVE IN PACIFIC CITY, HAVE LIVED HERE SINCEi' 1986M BEFOR THAT WE LIVE HRE AS LONG AS WE WANTED TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. . wE HAVE FOUR LOTS PUT UP A GARAGE. wE UPGRADED THE 5 FOOT LONG GARAAGE RIGHT AND WE MADE SURE THAT IS WAS N THE WRIGHT PLACE. tHAT WAS MAD. sO NOW WE HAVE MOST EVERYTHING IN IT'S RIGHT PLACE.

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dO YOU LIVE HERE NOW???? iF SO WHERE?

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As to isolation, for some of us, this time isn't terribly different. In Oregon, our Gov acted early and proactively to close everything that isn't essential. Perhaps the most difficult thing is that this state has laws to prevent drivers from filling their own cars, but the Gov has suspended that law, enabling service stations to be self-service–without any explanation of how to fill your car if, like me, you've driven here all your life!

Although I'm 77, I still have a design and marketing business from my home office, but all jobs have always been done remotely, with brief client meetings to discuss ideas and proofs of finished work. The sport fishing industry will take a long time to recover, so I have none of that work right now. I'm still doing the same volunteer work, which has never involved many other people, but means driving, loading and unloading generally totally alone. I still do fish surveys, which, again, means driving for hours and then hiking miles–by myself with my dog for a companion. I e-mail the results, and receive e-mailed results of other surveys by other volunteers for our project, but there's never been much of any contact between volunteers…no annual meetings or picnics, just e-mailed reports of results.

Big changes are no monthly fly fishing club (one of the few things my husband was willing to go out for) and the weekly lecture series we used to attend during fall and winter months. Winter term ended two weeks early when Oregon shut down, so there was a flurry of rescheduling lectures for what we hope will be a Fall term…but, as Curriculum Dir., I haven't scheduled the remainder of Fall Term because it could be an exercise in futility. If things have opened up and look positive by July, we'll knuckle down and schedule the 12 weeks of Fall Term then.

Our home has no nearby neighbors, although the same people walk our road for exercise most days, but those interactions are the same, a "hello" from my position bent over tending flower beds to someone walking past with little conversation. We hardly ever have visitors, although, gasp, we had two after the first of the year, a veritable flood! The one thing I really miss is the library: due to Meniere's going bilateral almost a year ago, I'm now virtually deaf most days, so I had been checking out several books each week to take the place of phone calls, TV, radio, a few words here 'n there with my spouse. We own thousands of books, so I'm re-reading some of those. In addition to our own acreage, there's over 200 acres of undeveloped forest adjacent our place, so I have plenty of places to walk by myself…as usual. There's also more yard/outside work here than I'll every be able to do, so I can pick and choose each day.

So, for some us, other than loss of income that we don't actually NEED, life hasn't changed a whole lot. I can only imagine how dreadful it would be to live in a dense complex where there is no wild place nearby, where you are really stuck inside. That would be a nearly impossible situation for me!

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@joyces

You and I bought places we intended to live in, but our area is so handy to Salem and the valley that people buy houses here with no plan to use them, now or later, just rent them nightly through one of the rental agencies in town. People have to make a bit of an effort to get to your town as it's not right at the end of the highway from a metro area. Ours is. When I bought this place almost 60 years ago, I had no idea that someday at least a quarter of the houses in my community would be nightly rentals. I thought that all the hundreds of acres of old growth spruce forest and some second growth alder forest would always be here. How stupid I was!

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jOYCES/ wELL i LIVE A BLOCK FROM THE PPOASTOFFICE IN pACIFIC cITY. wE MOVED HERE IN 87. i GOT DRESSED UP AND ENTERED THE dOD]RY pARADE AND WON FIRST PLACE IN THE CHILDRENS ENTRUY. cLOWN ON A BICYCLE. i EITHERE ENTERED RO DIRECTED THE PARADE FOR ABOUT SIX YEARS. iF YOU READ THE BOOK YOU WILL SEE WHAT ELSE i DID FOR THE TOWN. i HELD MEEDINGINGS AT MY HOOUSE, VOLUNTEERED FOR THE cHAMBER OF COMMERCE i WORKED AND sAFEWAY BOTH tILLAMOOK AND lINCOLN CITY. i HAV E LOT OF HISTORICAL STUFF IN THE BOOOK THAT o DOD/ {ERJA[S UPI EVEM LMPW ,E/ mPT DPOMG AS MUCH AS i DID IN THE PAST . i AM NOW 897/ TALES A ;OTT;E PIT PF ,E! mAMCU

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@joyces

As to isolation, for some of us, this time isn't terribly different. In Oregon, our Gov acted early and proactively to close everything that isn't essential. Perhaps the most difficult thing is that this state has laws to prevent drivers from filling their own cars, but the Gov has suspended that law, enabling service stations to be self-service–without any explanation of how to fill your car if, like me, you've driven here all your life!

Although I'm 77, I still have a design and marketing business from my home office, but all jobs have always been done remotely, with brief client meetings to discuss ideas and proofs of finished work. The sport fishing industry will take a long time to recover, so I have none of that work right now. I'm still doing the same volunteer work, which has never involved many other people, but means driving, loading and unloading generally totally alone. I still do fish surveys, which, again, means driving for hours and then hiking miles–by myself with my dog for a companion. I e-mail the results, and receive e-mailed results of other surveys by other volunteers for our project, but there's never been much of any contact between volunteers…no annual meetings or picnics, just e-mailed reports of results.

Big changes are no monthly fly fishing club (one of the few things my husband was willing to go out for) and the weekly lecture series we used to attend during fall and winter months. Winter term ended two weeks early when Oregon shut down, so there was a flurry of rescheduling lectures for what we hope will be a Fall term…but, as Curriculum Dir., I haven't scheduled the remainder of Fall Term because it could be an exercise in futility. If things have opened up and look positive by July, we'll knuckle down and schedule the 12 weeks of Fall Term then.

Our home has no nearby neighbors, although the same people walk our road for exercise most days, but those interactions are the same, a "hello" from my position bent over tending flower beds to someone walking past with little conversation. We hardly ever have visitors, although, gasp, we had two after the first of the year, a veritable flood! The one thing I really miss is the library: due to Meniere's going bilateral almost a year ago, I'm now virtually deaf most days, so I had been checking out several books each week to take the place of phone calls, TV, radio, a few words here 'n there with my spouse. We own thousands of books, so I'm re-reading some of those. In addition to our own acreage, there's over 200 acres of undeveloped forest adjacent our place, so I have plenty of places to walk by myself…as usual. There's also more yard/outside work here than I'll every be able to do, so I can pick and choose each day.

So, for some us, other than loss of income that we don't actually NEED, life hasn't changed a whole lot. I can only imagine how dreadful it would be to live in a dense complex where there is no wild place nearby, where you are really stuck inside. That would be a nearly impossible situation for me!

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Joyce, Good to hear you all are maintaining! As you know we are in the same type of business as in the sales and marketing, except I do golf. Unfortunately our governor closed down all of our courses, unlike yours I believe left them open. One of my vendore is headquatered in Canby.
As you know Spring is our Big Time of the year so it's very frustating! New Mexico finally decided to give Self Employed people Unemployement Insurance, but as goes with a "Third World State" they messed it up.
The media and citezens are up in arms, so they're going to try it again.
Quick question! What do you sell? Caps, shirts or hard goods.
Thanks,
Richard

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I really dont go anywhere. I have for many years now have just go to work and then home, i dont feel comfortable out in public around alot of people. Thats a little weird for me, because i loved being out in public around people. I was an extrovert and now im completely opposite, but i have internet and alot of devices to keep me connected.

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Do you think we have different times in our lives?

One when we are active: working, raising children president of an organization, chair of a committee, member of church group or PTA… board member of a senior center….knitting group, card club or?

Do we become more family centered, babysitters?

As we age, what do we do differently? What do we do for ourselves!

I went back to college. What! :My husband asked me “Why?”

“I am going!”
I told him that I wanted to study myself👵🏻And earned a Master’s in Gerontology.

The $$$$!!! Said my husband. I said
“I AM GOING.”I received a grant.. one designed for seniors returning to school!
The director of the Gerontology Dept. had special grants for SENIORS!!

The program was multi-generational.
This program changed my life!

Addendum: while I was perusing the bulletin board at that
College, a professor in the counseling program asked me to consider his program!

Seniors, there are programs that many of us do know
Keep your eyes open!
What have you always wanted to do?
Do it!

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@tmvickery

I really dont go anywhere. I have for many years now have just go to work and then home, i dont feel comfortable out in public around alot of people. Thats a little weird for me, because i loved being out in public around people. I was an extrovert and now im completely opposite, but i have internet and alot of devices to keep me connected.

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Dear TM, would you like to receive a phone call from your senior center?
Our senior center does not call, but I heard about a center that has ‘friendly callers’. They will call you to chat once a week or when you want. They do not visit unless you want them.

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