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Feeling down

Posted by nannygoat5 @nannygoat5, Mar 24 2:50pm

Ok so a friend called me today who I haven’t seen in a few weeks. She was very excited to tell me all about her recent facelift (I wasn’t aware) how she looks (she’s being told she’s beautiful) yada yada yada. Fine! Good for her!

But the kicker was she told me that she “had her DEXA scan and it was perfect” “She’ll never have to worry!” (she knows how down I am about my results) and she “takes no medication for anything!” Idk - would you tell a cardiac patient you have the heart of a thirty year old?

Am I being dramatic for feeling a little hurt? I just said. “Great!” Lmk if I’m in the wrong for not feeling more generous.

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nannygoat5 | @nannygoat5 | Mar 25 11:27am
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@normahorn

Is the complaint really about her friend or the fact that, unlike her friend, she has osteoporosis? Would her friend be expected to not ring the bell for being cancer free while she still has cancer?

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It’s more about not being empathetic.

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daisylou | @daisylou | Mar 25 12:26pm

What she did was rubbing it in.. Maybe unaware , rather than deliberately being obnoxious

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lhankins | @lhankins | Mar 26 9:26am

@nannygoat5
The older I get, the less patience I have for disconnected, clueless people. I had a similar ‘friend’ for years. Few years ago I was home recovering from surgery (tumor removed from inside my leg) while also going through the end of a 20 year relationship. My friend who has her fillers and lifters injected into her face every six months stopped by to say “So, do you think you’ve wasted the last 20 years of your life?” Never know what another person’s motivations are for saying what they do, in fact; many times they have not done any self evaluation so they may not even know it!! Like others have stated here, I have dropped a number of people that I found to be bad for my soul. Your friend may be excited about her facelift, but doesn’t mean they removed compassion with her wrinkles; she just doesn’t have it. You have every right to feel hurt, but don’t give her too much energy, she just doesn’t sound worth it.

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gently | @gently | Mar 26 9:54am

nannygoat5,
your friend didn't intend to get you down.
Her failure to be aware of others may be the greater burden.
There are probably many others besides the DIL who are "non contact" with her.
Wait till they find that obstructing brain tumor. You'll be glad you responded kindly.

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nannygoat5 | @nannygoat5 | Mar 26 3:33pm
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@gently

nannygoat5,
your friend didn't intend to get you down.
Her failure to be aware of others may be the greater burden.
There are probably many others besides the DIL who are "non contact" with her.
Wait till they find that obstructing brain tumor. You'll be glad you responded kindly.

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Thanks for that. You’re right - never feel bad about being nice / even to clueless people. And you’re right - many people I know avoid her.

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