Facing Cancer Recurrence, PTSD & Acknowledging Mental Health
It's extremely difficult to face the fact of recurring cancers. After treatments we try and get away from it all and live our life. Then along comes another CT scan or PET scan and POW, you have to face another cancer. My reaction was developing PTSD.
You can read what I wrote in my blog: https://my20yearscancer.com/blog/
How do we cope? How do we react? What do we do?
How have you all reacted to another cancer? Or the possibility of another one? Has your "already compromised" mental health been able to deal with it? How? Or not?
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This is not selfish! Everyone has to live with this in their own way. I talk a lot about different health things many of which I don’t have and my husband does not have. Mostly because I like to study the nuts and bolts of disease. Also because I like to be able to understand how it affects people. I try to be respectful of what people dont want to talk about. I have been going for years here and I still am lousy at small talk. Weather is just weather and we all watch the news. I love a real conversation and I love silliness. I don’t want “oh, poor you” and I don’t want people to do things for me. I want to try to figure it out on my own first.
I, for one, am glad you came to connect! Welcome to the journey, sometimes I think we are pretty darn lucky. We don’t take our days for granted.
@sakota This is how i feel, also. I don't want pity, I want support if I reach out. If I need to say "no" to some activity because the energy is not there, or the situation is wrong for me, please don't pat my arm and look at me with puppy-dog eyes! Since 1988 I have been dealing with chronic illnesses, some serious, and I refuse to be identified by the dis-orders listed on my chart.
Ginger
@sakota- You are a survivor for sure Joan!
Hi Auntie, I agree about the small talk. I don't want people to keep asking questions of which I have no answers, I don't want pity or sympathy. Maybe this is all wrong. I have a older sister who just drives me crazy and I get so upset with her, I just prefer to stay away. She is my older sister, my parents and brother are gone . All I want is some cheerful support when needed and then treat me like any other day if I didn't have cancer. Is this selfish of me. I don't think so. We are the ones who have to deal with it and if we need emotional support and a good friend we will reach out. I talk to a counselor quite often and she is super. I have accepted the cancer and will deal with it as it comes up...……. I'm not going to live my life feelng sorry for myself. I've been thru lots of other things and survived and I will this as long as the Lord lets me...….I'm ok with that.
PS The people in here are the greatest because they all understand and that means so much.
I also have multifocal adenocarcinoma , was diagnosed in 2011 at mayo. Have had two surgeries and a couple of rounds of radiation. I go back now in November for my ct scan so will see what happens. On the last one they said something had changed in my lower left lung so will be anxious about that. I told my counselor yesterday..... it will be what it will be...…. you do what you have to do and hope for the best...……..Best wishes and prayers for you padovani and you too merry
Love it!🙏🏻
@azkidney57- Boy have you come to the right place for cancer groups with people who are going through, or have gone through what you have. You can also go to Groups, at the top of the page and it will list all of our groups and topics that are being discussed now.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/cancer/
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/kidney-conditions/
@auntieoakley - You have described how I reacted when I first learned that I had cancer to a T. Minutia, crowds, anything loud. I love Zoloft and I won't get off of it unless it does me wrong. Some of us need the chemical balance to be put right and this does it for me too.
My dogs are my very dearest friends and companions. Wouldn’t have made it as well as I did and do after my lung cancer diagnosi, surgery and post op follow ups without their unconditional live. What you wrote above is so touching.😊🦋
Food for thought. Thank you.