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Elderly parents, no one else to support.

Posted by hopethereisnothing @hopethereisnothing, May 11, 2023

I am in a very bad situation regarding my family. I am 39, the eldest daughter of my parents, both in their 70's . Currently single, no partner and no kids.I am supposed to be their carer.
I started to feel ill several months ago, leading to suspicion of PC more recently. I have been through a lot of tests, scans and scopes, every time needing someone to be with me (my 78 year old father). No cause for my symptoms has been found yet and I need more tests and scans, and if PC is diagnosed, this will only be the beginning of the journey. I don't have anyone else, even friends are not so helpful in such situations.
I feel sorry for my family who have to care for me instead of the reverse. I pray to God to save me from cancer for their sake.

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jenray | @jenray | May 11, 2023

Don't feel guilty and don't feel sorry. You didn't plan this situation. It wasn't your choice. You don't deserve what's happening to you.

I pray you are saved from cancer for your own sake, because you deserve not to have cancer.

But in any case, you aren't a burden on others. You are a person. You deserve help during what might be a difficult struggle, not guilt. The guilt is not going to help anyone.

Wishing you good news on the diagnosis. May it be something simple and easily fixed.

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mamarina | @mamarina | May 12, 2023
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@jenray

Don't feel guilty and don't feel sorry. You didn't plan this situation. It wasn't your choice. You don't deserve what's happening to you.

I pray you are saved from cancer for your own sake, because you deserve not to have cancer.

But in any case, you aren't a burden on others. You are a person. You deserve help during what might be a difficult struggle, not guilt. The guilt is not going to help anyone.

Wishing you good news on the diagnosis. May it be something simple and easily fixed.

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What about your other siblings?

PC is a hard road. I am fortunate my family is so supportive but I know it takes a toll on them as well … 🙏🏻

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hopethereisnothing | @hopethereisnothing | May 13, 2023
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@mamarina

What about your other siblings?

PC is a hard road. I am fortunate my family is so supportive but I know it takes a toll on them as well … 🙏🏻

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One of my siblings has left the country many years ago The others are married and live with their families in different cities or in a very remote part of the same city. My sister does not even believe that I have a health problem and doesn't want to help.

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gardenlady1116 | @gardenlady1116 | May 13, 2023
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@hopethereisnothing

One of my siblings has left the country many years ago The others are married and live with their families in different cities or in a very remote part of the same city. My sister does not even believe that I have a health problem and doesn't want to help.

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I am sorry to hear that you are not getting support from family. It must be painful. I am hoping you have others such as friends, minster, pastor etc. I have found my therapist to be quite helpful. He is very understanding as his wife died from pancreatic cancer several years ago and really can relate to my experience.

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mamarina | @mamarina | May 13, 2023
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@hopethereisnothing

One of my siblings has left the country many years ago The others are married and live with their families in different cities or in a very remote part of the same city. My sister does not even believe that I have a health problem and doesn't want to help.

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Im sorry to hear that.

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hopethereisnothing | @hopethereisnothing | May 13, 2023

I am going to have EUS tomorrow. Very scared at the moment.

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