Does anyone feel they made major life mistakes that are not forgivable

Posted by elainer12 @elainer12, 4 hours ago

I’m in my 60s and have realized I made major mistakes in my life that I cannot make amends for. I’ve always had a strong faith in God and feel now that God will not forgive me. I married a man that I did not love because I wanted to be married and have a family. I grew up an only child with no extended family and difficulty making friends. I thought love for my husband would develop out of our friendship, but it didn’t because of his anger issues. We have two adult sons. The older one barely keeps in touch and the younger one has undiagnosed depression and anger issues. I have seen a therapist who said I should try to forgive myself. I have tried to be a good wife and mother. I have prayed for forgiveness and admitted my mistakes. I want to pray to God for help but feel unworthy. Being Jewish, I have the belief in God’s attribute of justice as well as mercy. How can I move forward? How can God forgive me?

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gloaming | @gloaming | 3 hours ago

How can He forgive you? The same way He has forgiven me, and for the same reason. After all I am his Creation, and God didn't make no crap.....know'msayum? He gave us the ability, the potential, and the autonomy, to fail, and except for his Son, I don't know of anyone infallible. We all sin. We all transgress. We all put our selfish motives ahead of most everything most times. If we have a conscience, and as we move through life learning, we come to understand the injury we have caused others, and by extension ourselves.

If you and are I alike, sinners, and if God hates a sinner, then every grave is filled with the bones of The Forsaken.

Scott R L | @scottrl | 3 hours ago

Well...
As someone who blamed himself for everything since the beginning of time, let me say this:
Stop it. Right now.

You don't have that kind of power.

Here's my take.
It's not that God can't forgive you. Whatever you've done, God has forgiven far worse.

The issue, I bet, is that you can't forgive yourself.

I'm not trying to be cruel. Just the opposite. Be compassionate with yourself. I'm sure you didn't sit up all night devising ways to ruin those around you. If things didn't work out ... well, that happens.

Unless you murdered people, sold drugs to schoolkids, or stuff like that, you're a pretty normal person.

I did a YouTube episode about this very topic:
https://m.youtube.com/watch