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Do You Live in "Shunland"?

Posted by Scott R L @scottrl, Dec 1, 2023

Maybe you've noticed that without knowing it, you have relocated to "Shunland".

I don't mean "shun" as in feeling excluded, though that may be part of it.

Shunland is a place with two neighborhoods -- on the one side, it's dark, with places like Isolation, Depression, Frustration, Aggravation. The other side is brighter; its places are Connection, Satisfaction, Motivation, Inspiration, and so on.

I know it happened to me; at some point after having a stroke, I found myself in Shunland.

What I then realized was that I can live on either side of Shunland -- whichever side I pick.

I picked the brighter side.

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kelekaos | @kelekaos | May 25 3:28am

Never done this before.

Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and not feel sorry for myself.
68 yrs young, I have always had depressi on and anxiety.
Life has had many, too many bumps in the road, much painful, sad times, I sometimes think life has not been good but looking at the whole picture, I have many good memories that outweigh the dark ones, the sadness in my head, somedays I wake up and pull the covers back over my head because, I am so depressed with no end in sight, I tell myself, that’s ok, tomorrow’s another day, I’m not going let that dark cloud hang over me.
I think to myself why am I still alive, why am I still upright and breathing. I’m amazed.
Well, I tell myself I have unfinished things that I need todo.
Pick up the phone, take a drive, keep in touch with family, brothers and my sis, 2 kids, 11 grand kids, and 3 great kids, life is too short, specially at my age.
I guess it’s not my time so I better keep busy.
Though I’ve been more depressed and down than not, I will keep on keeping on and make the best of what life throws at me cause that’s just the way it is.
I was raised, to not be a quitter. Daddy’s girl.
Always try to do good. Pay it forward when you can.
Never give up, when down and out, keep plugging along.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, gotta be positive.
I find making someone else smile makes my day better.
If fake a smile it will quickly be replaced by a real one.😊
So when you see someone that has a straight face, a frown,
just smile and say Smile!
Never Give Up.
Never say Never.
The past is the past, can’t go backwards
The future, can’t change time, be patient.
We can only live in the present, til tomorrow’s sunrise, a new day.
I tell myself to live life the best I can, one minute, one hour, one day at a time, and not forget I’m just me and that’s enough!
Be true to yourself, Love yourself, so you can share that Love with others.
Each day is a challenge to get to the next day,
I can do this.
🌅

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Scott R L | @scottrl | May 25 4:42am
In reply to @kelekaos "Never done this before. Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and..." + (show)
@kelekaos

Never done this before.

Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and not feel sorry for myself.
68 yrs young, I have always had depressi on and anxiety.
Life has had many, too many bumps in the road, much painful, sad times, I sometimes think life has not been good but looking at the whole picture, I have many good memories that outweigh the dark ones, the sadness in my head, somedays I wake up and pull the covers back over my head because, I am so depressed with no end in sight, I tell myself, that’s ok, tomorrow’s another day, I’m not going let that dark cloud hang over me.
I think to myself why am I still alive, why am I still upright and breathing. I’m amazed.
Well, I tell myself I have unfinished things that I need todo.
Pick up the phone, take a drive, keep in touch with family, brothers and my sis, 2 kids, 11 grand kids, and 3 great kids, life is too short, specially at my age.
I guess it’s not my time so I better keep busy.
Though I’ve been more depressed and down than not, I will keep on keeping on and make the best of what life throws at me cause that’s just the way it is.
I was raised, to not be a quitter. Daddy’s girl.
Always try to do good. Pay it forward when you can.
Never give up, when down and out, keep plugging along.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, gotta be positive.
I find making someone else smile makes my day better.
If fake a smile it will quickly be replaced by a real one.😊
So when you see someone that has a straight face, a frown,
just smile and say Smile!
Never Give Up.
Never say Never.
The past is the past, can’t go backwards
The future, can’t change time, be patient.
We can only live in the present, til tomorrow’s sunrise, a new day.
I tell myself to live life the best I can, one minute, one hour, one day at a time, and not forget I’m just me and that’s enough!
Be true to yourself, Love yourself, so you can share that Love with others.
Each day is a challenge to get to the next day,
I can do this.
🌅

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You bet you can.

You *are* doing it!

Think of what a great example you're setting for those around you.

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howardrlewis | @howardrlewis | May 25 6:33am
In reply to @kelekaos "Never done this before. Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and..." + (show)
@kelekaos

Never done this before.

Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and not feel sorry for myself.
68 yrs young, I have always had depressi on and anxiety.
Life has had many, too many bumps in the road, much painful, sad times, I sometimes think life has not been good but looking at the whole picture, I have many good memories that outweigh the dark ones, the sadness in my head, somedays I wake up and pull the covers back over my head because, I am so depressed with no end in sight, I tell myself, that’s ok, tomorrow’s another day, I’m not going let that dark cloud hang over me.
I think to myself why am I still alive, why am I still upright and breathing. I’m amazed.
Well, I tell myself I have unfinished things that I need todo.
Pick up the phone, take a drive, keep in touch with family, brothers and my sis, 2 kids, 11 grand kids, and 3 great kids, life is too short, specially at my age.
I guess it’s not my time so I better keep busy.
Though I’ve been more depressed and down than not, I will keep on keeping on and make the best of what life throws at me cause that’s just the way it is.
I was raised, to not be a quitter. Daddy’s girl.
Always try to do good. Pay it forward when you can.
Never give up, when down and out, keep plugging along.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, gotta be positive.
I find making someone else smile makes my day better.
If fake a smile it will quickly be replaced by a real one.😊
So when you see someone that has a straight face, a frown,
just smile and say Smile!
Never Give Up.
Never say Never.
The past is the past, can’t go backwards
The future, can’t change time, be patient.
We can only live in the present, til tomorrow’s sunrise, a new day.
I tell myself to live life the best I can, one minute, one hour, one day at a time, and not forget I’m just me and that’s enough!
Be true to yourself, Love yourself, so you can share that Love with others.
Each day is a challenge to get to the next day,
I can do this.
🌅

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You have the right attitude. For more motivation, read "The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor.

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | May 25 8:23am
In reply to @kelekaos "Never done this before. Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and..." + (show)
@kelekaos

Never done this before.

Read some of your stories, this helps me to get up and not feel sorry for myself.
68 yrs young, I have always had depressi on and anxiety.
Life has had many, too many bumps in the road, much painful, sad times, I sometimes think life has not been good but looking at the whole picture, I have many good memories that outweigh the dark ones, the sadness in my head, somedays I wake up and pull the covers back over my head because, I am so depressed with no end in sight, I tell myself, that’s ok, tomorrow’s another day, I’m not going let that dark cloud hang over me.
I think to myself why am I still alive, why am I still upright and breathing. I’m amazed.
Well, I tell myself I have unfinished things that I need todo.
Pick up the phone, take a drive, keep in touch with family, brothers and my sis, 2 kids, 11 grand kids, and 3 great kids, life is too short, specially at my age.
I guess it’s not my time so I better keep busy.
Though I’ve been more depressed and down than not, I will keep on keeping on and make the best of what life throws at me cause that’s just the way it is.
I was raised, to not be a quitter. Daddy’s girl.
Always try to do good. Pay it forward when you can.
Never give up, when down and out, keep plugging along.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, gotta be positive.
I find making someone else smile makes my day better.
If fake a smile it will quickly be replaced by a real one.😊
So when you see someone that has a straight face, a frown,
just smile and say Smile!
Never Give Up.
Never say Never.
The past is the past, can’t go backwards
The future, can’t change time, be patient.
We can only live in the present, til tomorrow’s sunrise, a new day.
I tell myself to live life the best I can, one minute, one hour, one day at a time, and not forget I’m just me and that’s enough!
Be true to yourself, Love yourself, so you can share that Love with others.
Each day is a challenge to get to the next day,
I can do this.
🌅

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@kelekaos Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect!

You offer some great suggestions here! Would you mind telling me which one or two are working the best for you, today?
Ginger

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getagripalready | @getagripalready | 4 days ago
In reply to @thisismarilynb "Yes, you are. I was lucky for 59 years, but then he died. I have been..." + (show)
@thisismarilynb

Yes, you are. I was lucky for 59 years, but then he died. I have been home all week. No one cares. This has become the new normal.

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This is really more of a reply to thisismarilynb: I am truly sorry that you lost your husband of 59 years, that truly is a lifetime.
Is it really that no one cares or is everyone just so busy and tied up with their own problems?
I firmly believe that if we knew everyone's story, we would laugh and cry with everyone. Instead of telling myself no one cares, I just tell myself everyone is busy with their lives, as I once was. I had that time in the busy world and this is the slow time. Take joy in the little things, the little interactions at the store, or in line or volunteer somewhere if you are able. People DO care. They just don't know your story. Or, if they do know your story, it hits too close to home and they can't handle it. It's hard not to take things personally sometimes, but there is usually something else going on.

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