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Depression after Divorce
Hi. I have a history of depression. I thought I was doing good. March 2025 my divorce was final after 33 years of marriage. I’ve gone back into deep depression. Two weeks ago I started seeing a Therapist and Psychiatrist. Here’s my problems. I still love my ex-husband and miss him and, here’s the biggest one, after 33 years of being a wife I don’t know who I am anymore. I don’t know what I’m supposed to be.
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@momof2sons Please give yourself some time with the therapist and psychiatrist. They will help guide you through this period. It took a long-term marriage and a divorce to get to the point where you are now. That, in my humble opinion, will not be changed up in only 2 weeks!
Please be gentle on yourself. We often define ourselves and label ourselves as "So-and-so's wife or mother", rather than acknowledging ourselves as their own person. It takes time and courage to finally tell others [and that comes after telling yourself!] "I am an artist/nurse/gardener/retired" or whatever fits that blank!
How would you introduce yourself to yourself, today?
Ginger
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2 ReactionsI'm sorry you're experiencing this.
Loss of a long term relationship is a grieving process that takes a lot of time.
And while I am not a professional therapist, here's something I use when I'm feeling depressed (from my YouTube channel):
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jSVvaErF1qw
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3 ReactionsI was very depressed and had many conflicting feelings after my separation/divorce. I actually saw my therapist 3x week for a while, no shame in that. I also saw my PCP regularly, I think a resource that’s not often enough taken advantage of. It took me 5 years to feel like myself (or a different, but more than acceptable version of myself) again, so hang in there, one day at a time.
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