Depressed individuals: Have you fallen in love with your spouse?

Posted by aliali @aliali, May 9 4:08pm

My fiancée and I are progressing towards love, understanding, respect and sacrifice since we started our relationship a month ago only. I’m already depressed, but she’s not, and involving in this lovely relationship causes me severe trouble, and causes her so little of that. Please let me elaborate on my situation and hers.

• My situation: I feel extremely anxious and stressed. I think of her a lot. I need to exert effort to shift my mind to something else. I miss her always. I overthink what I can do for her to make her satisfied and happy. I wish to know each and every aspect of her life. I feel obsessed with her.

Her situation: She misses me and thinks of me and experiences drop in focus (but not as much as I do). I suspect she’s experiencing what a normal person would after starting such a serious relationship.

Overall she’s okay, but I’m not.

What do you think of my situation? Any well-known diagnosis? Is it emotional dependence? What do you recommend? Is it healthy?

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itchyd | @itchyd | May 10 6:41am

Early stages of love can make you feel like you're obsessed.

You don't provide a lot of detail. Are you spying on her? Trying to isolate her from her from friends & acquaintances? Calling/ texting her constantly.

Have you discussed with her?

jeanadair123 | @jeanadair123 | May 11 9:49am

I think you just need to feel secure in your relationship?
That takes time, young love is passionate. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. It’s normal to want to do things for her and make her happy but don’t be obsessive.