Demisexual?

Demisexual! I'm 75 and that's new to me but so is the LGBTQRGAEIOU people. I call them alphabet people. Anything goes, so I guess you are pretty normal! Just live your life the best you can and be kind to all.

The reason I’m discussing this here on this forum is because people respond and I’m trying to see if this is legit. Demisexuality, I mean. It was difficult growing up around a lot of guys who were constantly drooling and fawning over women, and I thought girls were beautiful to look at, it was more like a beautiful piece of artwork; look but don’t touch. It was much more difficult for a guy to be Demisexual that a girl, because a girl could say she was waiting for the right guy. A guy had to be ready at all times. I used to joke about my older brother having enough sex drive for 3 guys. He always had lots of girlfriends.

Thanks to Valerie and mikaylar for responding to me. I suppose the underlying reason I’m writing this is because I want to raise awareness that if someone’s friend, son or daughter has these same feelings not to say something like or you’re just shy or keep trying or setting them up with someone. I’m just trying to save those individuals from feeling like their is something wrong with them. I recently watched a YouTube video about a male therapist who said he was Demisexual. One thing one the positive side; Demisexuals will never cheat or stray. We’re faithful to the end. At least in my case.
Thanks to all.

I believe the whole subject of sexuality is taboo in general. Is that because it's taken for granted or just too private to discuss? If it were not taboo would people still ignore it or find it interesting. To me a demisexual is a person who is selective about a sexual partner. I'm all for selectivity: it suggest to me mutuality, respect, unselfishness. I'm glad you brought up the subject.

The male therapist said he does have sexual feelings but only for his wife. I too only have sexual feelings for my wife. I’ve been happily married for twenty two years. She was my only true girlfriend.

Part of my belief that I have low libido is because I have a chronic illness that kills the sex drive, and aren’t men supposed be sex crazed? My wife when I first met her loved having sex with me, and I did, too. It was only once or twice a week. But it was a wonderful experience. Most of the she initiated it. That didn’t help my manliness, because like I said, aren’t men supposed to be the seducers and the initiators? Sorry for rambling on, but it just bothers me. As a teenager, some girls did like me because I was nice to them. I broke this girls heart because I refused to meet her. She was extremely upset and I understand why. Anyway I just wanted to unload this. Thanks to all.

Hi!
You are what used to be called "a gentleman." There used to be a lot of them around. I'm a 76 year old female and I remember "gentlemen". They were polite, fun to go places with and always treated you with respect. I married one and we are very happy! Sometimes it just takes longer for some people to find real love. I didn't meet my husband until I was in my 40's. You are not weird or strange. In fact, you sound like a very nice person. It's society that is weird and strange these days. Give your concerns up to God. He is good at handling those things.
PML

Well stated PML. Good job!

It’s easier for a woman to be Demisexual because they are not expected to be sexually aggressive. In a man’s case, at least when and where I was raised, men are supposed to be girl chasing, sex crazy guys. If you girl crazy, you were thought to be “weird.”

I loved women who wore dresses or blouses and skirts. This fits another criteria for demisexuality.