Dealing with resentments
Here I am seeking help. I am depressed. For religious purposes, I am not allowed to become angry at others etc; I have to be highly polite to them even if they are not so to me.
The question is: what does psychology say about a resentment: should I suppress it or disclose it?
I have tried to disclose it in the past. It was terrible. Now I ignore it and move on. It is highly amazing.
However, on Sunday I had a dispute with someone. I was truly stressed out. What I felt is the desire to revenge all those around who has hurt me in the past! This is the problem with suppression ! It is really terrible once the thing is out of your control!! I hade a stressful week. And I felt the revenge desire again and again. In the past, I used to meditate and ignore the resentments. Once I really rarely become stressed out, I feel the desire to go to that person and open an old dispute to revenge!
So what should I do? What is the psychological perception of this matter? And also do not forget what my religion says about being angry etc. what I am seeking is a comfortable solution both for short term and long term.