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Adult Son with mental health

Posted by juliasoon @juliasoon, 3 days ago

Hi my 25 years old son suffering depression and anxiety for 2 years plus, also having therapy and medication but recently he had committed suicide attempts 2 times (Dec and April), we are living in different city , I'm wondering shld I move in with him leaving my career and partner till my son is ok and safe (no longer thinking of commit suicidal) I asked him he said he doesn't want to because he is an adult, but I am thinking the reason he doesn't want me to move in is because he will lost his freedom (he does weed, vape) which that is the reasons I think I shld move in...please advise...or share if anyone has the same issue / similar situation like mine..

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bewildered | @bewildered | 3 days ago

I know what you are going though, we have gone through this a few times with our 31 year old son who has had bipolar disorder since he was 21 and in college. We think weed and nicotine contributed to his breakdowns hospitalizations. He takes medication, which was adjusted and started up therapy again. To answer your question, he had to move in with us each time in order to recover. This time he had to move out of state to live with us. Each time it was hard, including this time, but he is getting back on his feet now after 6 months, has a job and is saving money for a car and to move out on his own again. If he had stayed on his own, I don’t think he would have survived, or would be on the streets or in jail as he was out of control. We had no choice as parents we felt. So, yes, I think he needs you in order to get better. Is there a way he can move in with you instead of the other way around? That way you don’t have to completely rearrange your life to move there. Although it is still hard having a grown adult child move in with you! Best of luck to you, sending prayers your way, it is a difficult time I know!

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juliasoon | @juliasoon | 2 days ago
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@bewildered

I know what you are going though, we have gone through this a few times with our 31 year old son who has had bipolar disorder since he was 21 and in college. We think weed and nicotine contributed to his breakdowns hospitalizations. He takes medication, which was adjusted and started up therapy again. To answer your question, he had to move in with us each time in order to recover. This time he had to move out of state to live with us. Each time it was hard, including this time, but he is getting back on his feet now after 6 months, has a job and is saving money for a car and to move out on his own again. If he had stayed on his own, I don’t think he would have survived, or would be on the streets or in jail as he was out of control. We had no choice as parents we felt. So, yes, I think he needs you in order to get better. Is there a way he can move in with you instead of the other way around? That way you don’t have to completely rearrange your life to move there. Although it is still hard having a grown adult child move in with you! Best of luck to you, sending prayers your way, it is a difficult time I know!

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Thank you for sharing your experience with me, unfortunately he doesn't want to move to my city that means he has to leave his friends and his city have better medical system and support..

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dlydailyhope | @dlydailyhope | 2 days ago

@juliasoon
You may need to get your son into an inpatient facility to help him with his suicidal tendencies and get the care he needs. You should consider calling a crisis hotline for help and guidance/suggestions for your adult son. You may want to get yourself some guidance before considering moving or quitting a job. You may want the help of others to help you help your son. Two suicide attempts are serious and marijuana and vaping may be worsening his depression/anxiety.

Suicide Hotlines in The United States:
Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

Trans Lifeline 1-877-565-8860 (for the transgender community)

TrevorLifeline 1-866-488-7386 (for LGBTQ youth)

1. https://www.nami.org/Advocacy/Policy-Priorities/Responding-to-Crises/National-Hotline-for-Mental-Health-Crises-and-Suicide-Prevention/
2. https://www.samhsa.gov/mental-health/988
3. https://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/988-factsheet.pdf
4. https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/resources/general-resources.html

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kb2014 | @kb2014 | 1 day ago

Perhaps if treatment for him includes steps to take charge of a behavioral health disorder would help. He would benefit I think from learning he has agency over this not the other way around

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