How to feel less anxious about what is happening to you and around you

Posted by thisismarilynb @thisismarilynb, Nov 12, 2023

Words to live by:
Do what you can.
Want what you have.
And be who you are.

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Give thanks every day.

I find that the greatest stress reliever in my life is *gratitude*.

P.S. Stop watching/reading/listening to news all the time.
Remember, their job isn't to inform.
Their job is to make money, which they do by getting people to stay tuned.
That, in turn, is done by scaring people and keeping them scared.
Read a book instead.

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@scottrl

Give thanks every day.

I find that the greatest stress reliever in my life is *gratitude*.

P.S. Stop watching/reading/listening to news all the time.
Remember, their job isn't to inform.
Their job is to make money, which they do by getting people to stay tuned.
That, in turn, is done by scaring people and keeping them scared.
Read a book instead.

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Very true. It's good to keep yourself informed, but spending all your time obsessing over what's happening in the world is what the Germans call "Weltschmerz." Fortunately, the cure is simple: turn off cable news and stop refreshing your news website every 5 minutes.

Unless you're in the path of a hurricane, checking the news 1×/day is plenty, especially if you're already dealing with a big life challenge like a stroke or cancer.

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I recommend a book called The Tao of Pooh.

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@gemjaynes

I recommend a book called The Tao of Pooh.

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One of my favorites books.
I have to reread.
Thanks for reminding me.

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Or, you can be the author of Your Own book-to-live-by.
Your self reflection will go a long way to sift from what needs listening and what does not (that you can do nothing about nor enlightens your life)

It's also Called CBT/DBT, which is Clearer Thinking. Finding out Yourself how to steer your life will also make You Feel Good About Yourself. (This is not to say advice from other places has no place) We often have more ability than we know. This gives us Self-confidence, resilience, maturity.
Good luck friend!

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Good that you mentioned CBT. I've gone back to writing exercises occasionally to help me deal with the changes in my life.

I write down one dysfunctional thought frankly, then follow with a rational response. The response needs to be realistic: e.g., not "Everything is going to be okay!" but perhaps "I don't know the future yet, so it's as unrealistic always to assume the worst as it would be always to assume the best."

The actual act of writing is very important; it's different than just saying or thinking these things, at least in my experience. And a $1 paper notebook is a lot cheaper than a therapy session.

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@scottrl

Give thanks every day.

I find that the greatest stress reliever in my life is *gratitude*.

P.S. Stop watching/reading/listening to news all the time.
Remember, their job isn't to inform.
Their job is to make money, which they do by getting people to stay tuned.
That, in turn, is done by scaring people and keeping them scared.
Read a book instead.

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Great advice. Thank you.

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@northoftheborder

Very true. It's good to keep yourself informed, but spending all your time obsessing over what's happening in the world is what the Germans call "Weltschmerz." Fortunately, the cure is simple: turn off cable news and stop refreshing your news website every 5 minutes.

Unless you're in the path of a hurricane, checking the news 1×/day is plenty, especially if you're already dealing with a big life challenge like a stroke or cancer.

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Those Germans! I have wanted to learn the German language ever since I discovered the word "schadenfreude."

For me personally, having put in a serious amount of time and effort with the Dalai Lama's books about 25 years ago, I am better able to deal with things now.

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Reducing anxiety involves acknowledging your feelings and finding coping strategies. Practice mindfulness or deep breathing to center yourself. Identify what triggers your anxiety and find ways to address or avoid those triggers. Seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can also provide valuable assistance in managing anxiety. Remember, taking small steps to regain a sense of control can help alleviate anxiety about what's happening around you.

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