33 years old: When should I start considering doing a Will a DNR etc?

Hi Lidiana,
I'm sorry you are having so many physical problems! But you are doing the right thing and the only thing you need to do - praying! God will handle your problems for you as he sees fit. He stated in the Bible, "I give life and I take it away." and that is the way it is. However, as you probably have already done, you could ask for him to give you more comfort and to please hurry. You are fortunate to have your strong faith in God. Not many people do these days. You sound like a very intelligent person regarding your health. I don't think you need to bother with a DNR or a will. (Well, maybe a will to keep family members from arguing over who gets what! I inherited a beautiful vase from my neighbor because she said if she left it to her girls, they would just fight over it!) Eat healthy, drink lots of water and pray fervantly! God still does miracles and I think you are due for one soon! I will add you to my prayers also.
Best wishes!
PML

I have a question about Do not resuscitate form. Where should we keep our signed and witnessed by a doctor form ? Discussion has not resulted in an answer...some people keep theirs on their fridge, or in safety deposit box, etc. but if something horrible happens, such as vehicle accident, when out of town and person is e.g. temporarily unable to discuss to answer questions, how does the hospital know that person even has a DNR form, or where it is? Was discussing this with a social worker today and he said on fridge but am I to take off fridge and put in ? my pocket or ? every time I go out of the house? It's bothering me that I have gone to the trouble of obtaining the form,, having previous doctor sign it but it is now sitting in my office/den upstairs...any ideas? Thanks, J.

Hi, @lacy2 You raise a good question! I know everyone is different, but in our case we didn't keep a fridge copy until my wife was in home hospice and we had a variety of medical professionals coming and going in the house.

We found it was most important to have certain people know of the document and our decisions. We told family, a couple of close friends, and our doctors. We also made sure a photocopy was in our medical files with our GPs and my wife's neurooncologist.

I now keep a reduced-size copy of mine in my wallet in case of a car wreck or something.

Hope this helps,

@lidiana
I think the time of considering is past, it’s time to get it done. Unfortunately, life doesn’t come with a guarantee. People of every age are dying every day.
My suggestion would be to get a Medic Alert bracelet/necklace. As long as you wear the bracelet, the DNR would be with you to notify medical personnel anywhere any time. MedicAlert also stores documents. I’ve been a member for over 50 years. I have a friend who is going to have DNR tattooed on her chest.
I’ve been a member for over 50 years.
Here’s a link to their website.
https://www.medicalert.org/
Don't procrastinate, get these documents done.
Jake

@lacy2 I live in Oregon. I filled out a POLST [Portable Order for Life-Sustaining Treatment] and have the original in my file. I also keep a colored copy with me. Here in Oregon, a POLST can be registered with the Oregon POLST Registry, and the original one has the registry number on it via an adhesive label. Likewise, there is a magnet on the fridge with the number. As the informational trifold says, it is a medical order, versus an advance directive, which is considered a legal form only. Each state seems to vary in how they handle the situation and forms. Recently, a gentleman had an accident at his home near here. Because his family knew of his POLST, and could produce it, first responders were able to follow his wishes.

I have DNR orders in my advanced directive through 5 Wishes, and the POLST gives me additional peace of mind.
Ginger

You make a Will when you think you need it. There is no right or wrong age. Has anyone told you about a holographic Will? This is a document that you can make by yourself. It must be entirely in your own handwriting. You should date it and sign it. You simply state your wishes and that's it. It's perfectly legal. It does not need to be notarized. What is the most important thing is that it must be entirely in your own handwriting. During my career I worked for a probate and trust attorney. We probated a holographic Will written on a 3" by 5" card. Oh, and you should name someone you trust to be executor.

U should do Will and Living Will now. Never too soon. You can get forms online

Not every state will honor a handwritten will. Not every state will honor a DNR that is not signed on a specific form by an MD. Every state had their own requirements. NOLO carries online documents for each state that allows self created wills. Lawyers often download them. Min fee. FREEWILL (org/net/co?/ has excellent comprehensive fill-in documents and it's free. Complete with instructions for your state. Hospitals and Drs office also provide End of Life paperwork. Having these affairs in order isn't necessarily an indication of dying. It's a step in taking responsibility for your business matters +personal wishes for whenever you may become unable to handle your own affairs and when you do pass away. It can provide you with peace of mind as well as help whomever will be responsible for the closure of your affairs.
I hope you amp up your faith during your trying time. Don't lose your hope. That's the worst and most unnecessary state to be in.
Expect things will improve. They usually do.