Acts of Kindness When you're Sheltered In?

Posted by 0616 @0616, Aug 29, 2020

I just read your article on relieving stress. It has so many good suggestions but one of the remedies puzzles me. Yes, kindness to others always makes us feel better but as an octogenarian and one who is sheltered in, what acts of kindness can I do for others? Thank you for your many articles on health and well being; they have been inspiring and helpful to me.

Thank you for caring.

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@mockinbrd

Hello 0616. Congratulations on being an octogenarian, I hope to live long enough to join you! You ask what acts of kindness you can do for others? If you wanted to make my life just a little bit less isolated, occasionally send me a little message of hello and nice thoughts. We are all in this together. We will get through this all together. I look forward to your kind hello.

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Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much to me.

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@harriethodgson1

I heard that a friend of mine, who lives alone, was feeling very down. She loves puzzles and she loves birds, so I sent her a Charlie Harper bird puzzle. Before the delivery date, I emailed her and told her to be on the alert for an Amazon parcel. She loved the puzzle and her grandkids did as well. My surprise said I"im thinking about you and care about you." She received the message loud and clear.

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What a good friend you are! Such a good idea.

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A while ago I was struggling with not being able to see my kids and grandchildren, but I was determined to stay connected to my volunteer activities from a distance. As a result, I ended up taking a difficult and somewhat unpopular position to "do the right thing " in one group and prevailed. On one of my worst days personally, I received a handwritten
card from another volunteer thanking me for helping the group get to the right decision. I treasure it. So a simple card or letter is one possibility.
Another thing you might want to do is to write a memoir for your grandchildren about your past and their Dad's. It may not reach them for many years, but they will appreciate it. My cousins, now in their 60's were kept away from us for years, and we have spent many hours telling them about our grandparents.
Sue

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@sueinmn

A while ago I was struggling with not being able to see my kids and grandchildren, but I was determined to stay connected to my volunteer activities from a distance. As a result, I ended up taking a difficult and somewhat unpopular position to "do the right thing " in one group and prevailed. On one of my worst days personally, I received a handwritten
card from another volunteer thanking me for helping the group get to the right decision. I treasure it. So a simple card or letter is one possibility.
Another thing you might want to do is to write a memoir for your grandchildren about your past and their Dad's. It may not reach them for many years, but they will appreciate it. My cousins, now in their 60's were kept away from us for years, and we have spent many hours telling them about our grandparents.
Sue

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@sueinmn That's a good idea memories of my past and his Dad,s I did buy acute funny card to send to my grandson

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To Sue – you offered great ideas – thanks for your thoughtfulness and kindness!

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@0616

Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much to me.

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Hello to 0616. Thanks for your kind reply. I'm laughing at myself. I tend to be a cautious private person. So my sharing will reflect that. But I think that’s best for all. I like audiobooks books and wonder if you have access to that form of entertainment. My current reading includes 'The Library Book' by Susan Orleans. The narrator (and author) has a soothing voice and it is an interesting book and lacks violence, sex, or ickiness (books I gravitate towards). Do you like audiobooks?

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@colleenyoung

@0616, what a great question! I changed the title of this discussion to reflect the topic and your question. I also added it to the Aging Well group as well as the Just Want to Talk group. I can wait to see the tips members will offer. Here's a couple of mine:

– Taking part in an online support group like this one, Mayo Clinic Connect.
You'd be surprised how much good members do for other members with just a simple "I hear you." or "You're not alone." Sharing your experiences is an act of kindness

– Get hip a youngster and text.
As we age, our friend circle diminishes. But the young still need us. Text with a young member of the family or friend circle. Their responses may be short, but you'll give them the gift of a different perspective when they need it. (I'm sure they don't say "hip." Apparently in today's youth lingo hip = "sick")

I'm tagging @summertime4 and @texasduchess to keep the list going.

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Colleen, can you provide a link to the original article @0616 is referring to re relieving stress? It does not come up in my searches.

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@texasduchess

Colleen, can you provide a link to the original article @0616 is referring to re relieving stress? It does not come up in my searches.

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@0616, is this the article (blog post) to which you refer? (cc @texasduchess)

– Finding Happiness During Stressful Times https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/cancer-education-center/newsfeed-post/finding-happiness-during-stressful-times/

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Yesterday I received a phone call from my granddaughter whom I haven't heard from in two years. I can't tell you the happiness and excitement I felt when I heard her voice. Words cannot express the feeling of gratitude for prayers being answered. I thought I had lost her forever. The situation is the result of a divorce. I live here in NJ and my son, his former wife and our two grandchildren live in IN. The distance alone has always been a heartache but the divorce made it even worse. I'm still on cloud nine from yesterday's call. My prayers have been answered. I thank everyone here for all the kind words and encouragement they have extended to me. The Daily Digest is truly a blessing!

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@mockinbrd

Hello to 0616. Thanks for your kind reply. I'm laughing at myself. I tend to be a cautious private person. So my sharing will reflect that. But I think that’s best for all. I like audiobooks books and wonder if you have access to that form of entertainment. My current reading includes 'The Library Book' by Susan Orleans. The narrator (and author) has a soothing voice and it is an interesting book and lacks violence, sex, or ickiness (books I gravitate towards). Do you like audiobooks?

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I haven't as yet tried audio books. That certainly is a good idea. Thanks so much for taking the time to suggest the idea.

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@0616

Yesterday I received a phone call from my granddaughter whom I haven't heard from in two years. I can't tell you the happiness and excitement I felt when I heard her voice. Words cannot express the feeling of gratitude for prayers being answered. I thought I had lost her forever. The situation is the result of a divorce. I live here in NJ and my son, his former wife and our two grandchildren live in IN. The distance alone has always been a heartache but the divorce made it even worse. I'm still on cloud nine from yesterday's call. My prayers have been answered. I thank everyone here for all the kind words and encouragement they have extended to me. The Daily Digest is truly a blessing!

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@0616 So happy that you heard from your granddaughter! Sometimes situations keep us from those we love, but keeps them in our hearts. How exciting!

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