Acts of Kindness When you're Sheltered In?

Posted by 0616 @0616, Aug 29, 2020

I just read your article on relieving stress. It has so many good suggestions but one of the remedies puzzles me. Yes, kindness to others always makes us feel better but as an octogenarian and one who is sheltered in, what acts of kindness can I do for others? Thank you for your many articles on health and well being; they have been inspiring and helpful to me.

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Hello 0616. Congratulations on being an octogenarian, I hope to live long enough to join you! You ask what acts of kindness you can do for others? If you wanted to make my life just a little bit less isolated, occasionally send me a little message of hello and nice thoughts. We are all in this together. We will get through this all together. I look forward to your kind hello.

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@0616

I thank you for taking the time to address my concerns. You sound like good, compassionate people. You suggest connecting with young people and that sounds good. However, since our son's divorce we no longer have contact with our grandchildren. It hurts so much and we feel so alone.

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It must be tough loosing contact with grandkids but it need not be the end of contact with others kids. Maybe you could contact the nearest school and ask if there are any kids that would appreciate hearing from you? A simple note or a packet of coloring sheets you might copy from the internet sent in their name to the school would protect their privacy while letting you be involved? There are so many kids, probably even in your neighborhood, that would love a smile or a "good job" recognition from that "old lady" down the street. Make them some cookies or simply buy a pack at the store. Check with "mom" about allergies first, but most kids like cookies and often moms don't have the time, training or money to make them. Did I mention, wear a mask? Stay safe and healthy but try to maintain some connection outside your home. These trying times will pass.

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@mockinbrd

Hello 0616. Congratulations on being an octogenarian, I hope to live long enough to join you! You ask what acts of kindness you can do for others? If you wanted to make my life just a little bit less isolated, occasionally send me a little message of hello and nice thoughts. We are all in this together. We will get through this all together. I look forward to your kind hello.

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Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much to me.

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@harriethodgson1

I heard that a friend of mine, who lives alone, was feeling very down. She loves puzzles and she loves birds, so I sent her a Charlie Harper bird puzzle. Before the delivery date, I emailed her and told her to be on the alert for an Amazon parcel. She loved the puzzle and her grandkids did as well. My surprise said I"im thinking about you and care about you." She received the message loud and clear.

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What a good friend you are! Such a good idea.

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A while ago I was struggling with not being able to see my kids and grandchildren, but I was determined to stay connected to my volunteer activities from a distance. As a result, I ended up taking a difficult and somewhat unpopular position to "do the right thing " in one group and prevailed. On one of my worst days personally, I received a handwritten
card from another volunteer thanking me for helping the group get to the right decision. I treasure it. So a simple card or letter is one possibility.
Another thing you might want to do is to write a memoir for your grandchildren about your past and their Dad's. It may not reach them for many years, but they will appreciate it. My cousins, now in their 60's were kept away from us for years, and we have spent many hours telling them about our grandparents.
Sue

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@sueinmn

A while ago I was struggling with not being able to see my kids and grandchildren, but I was determined to stay connected to my volunteer activities from a distance. As a result, I ended up taking a difficult and somewhat unpopular position to "do the right thing " in one group and prevailed. On one of my worst days personally, I received a handwritten
card from another volunteer thanking me for helping the group get to the right decision. I treasure it. So a simple card or letter is one possibility.
Another thing you might want to do is to write a memoir for your grandchildren about your past and their Dad's. It may not reach them for many years, but they will appreciate it. My cousins, now in their 60's were kept away from us for years, and we have spent many hours telling them about our grandparents.
Sue

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@sueinmn That's a good idea memories of my past and his Dad,s I did buy acute funny card to send to my grandson

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To Sue – you offered great ideas – thanks for your thoughtfulness and kindness!

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@0616

Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much to me.

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Hello to 0616. Thanks for your kind reply. I'm laughing at myself. I tend to be a cautious private person. So my sharing will reflect that. But I think that’s best for all. I like audiobooks books and wonder if you have access to that form of entertainment. My current reading includes 'The Library Book' by Susan Orleans. The narrator (and author) has a soothing voice and it is an interesting book and lacks violence, sex, or ickiness (books I gravitate towards). Do you like audiobooks?

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@colleenyoung

@0616, what a great question! I changed the title of this discussion to reflect the topic and your question. I also added it to the Aging Well group as well as the Just Want to Talk group. I can wait to see the tips members will offer. Here's a couple of mine:

– Taking part in an online support group like this one, Mayo Clinic Connect.
You'd be surprised how much good members do for other members with just a simple "I hear you." or "You're not alone." Sharing your experiences is an act of kindness

– Get hip a youngster and text.
As we age, our friend circle diminishes. But the young still need us. Text with a young member of the family or friend circle. Their responses may be short, but you'll give them the gift of a different perspective when they need it. (I'm sure they don't say "hip." Apparently in today's youth lingo hip = "sick")

I'm tagging @summertime4 and @texasduchess to keep the list going.

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Colleen, can you provide a link to the original article @0616 is referring to re relieving stress? It does not come up in my searches.

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