How do you deal with aging?

Posted by prcrowe @prcrowe, Jan 1 10:04pm

How do you emotionally handle aging and knowing that you only have a limited number of years left in your life? I'm turning 80 years old in 5 months, am in quite good health, work fulltime, and am incredibly grateful for the life I have. But, I find myself obsessed with the thought that I only have "x" amount of years left in my life. I've never figured out how to live one day at a time. Any suggestions from those of you around my age or older would be SO appreciated! (I'm "kind of" spiritual, but not really religious so that's not something that seems to help with my fear.)

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Chronic illnesses can affect outlook of a long lifespan and aging. I am considered young for my conditions, it is what it is. So, I think about what that all means. So, I focus on quality of life more than age, because if i thought about my age and longevity I’d be depressed and it would taint my outlook on life in general. I try to spend more time with family. Focus on what is important in life and try to not sweat the small stuff (easily said not easily done), With al the illness, its hard to think I’ll have a long “healthy” life. As a matter of fact I’m looking into insurance to help in the future if I last. Aging as an unhealthy person is very challenging whereas if i were healthier id have a different outlet. I’m talking about funeral arrangements because it’s on my mind and I’d like my wishes carried out. I digress. So, live love laugh to the best of ability. Keep positive to best ability. Work at it daily moment by moment. < 3

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@nemo1

Chronic illnesses can affect outlook of a long lifespan and aging. I am considered young for my conditions, it is what it is. So, I think about what that all means. So, I focus on quality of life more than age, because if i thought about my age and longevity I’d be depressed and it would taint my outlook on life in general. I try to spend more time with family. Focus on what is important in life and try to not sweat the small stuff (easily said not easily done), With al the illness, its hard to think I’ll have a long “healthy” life. As a matter of fact I’m looking into insurance to help in the future if I last. Aging as an unhealthy person is very challenging whereas if i were healthier id have a different outlet. I’m talking about funeral arrangements because it’s on my mind and I’d like my wishes carried out. I digress. So, live love laugh to the best of ability. Keep positive to best ability. Work at it daily moment by moment. < 3

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I love your comment to focus on quality of life rather than on age. It's yet another thing I will begin working on! 🙂

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In reply to @funcountess "Good attitude." + (show)
@funcountess

Good attitude.

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Thank you dear !

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@prcrowe

I love your comment to focus on quality of life rather than on age. It's yet another thing I will begin working on! 🙂

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😊

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Two days ago I was out walking with my dog Hazel, and an image of myself came to me: An old man with his walking stick and his dog, walking briskly across a field.

I realized that I had not updated my self image in quite a while. In my 60s I looked as if I was in my early 50s, but now in my mid-70s my beard is grey, my hair is almost gone and my face is wrinkled. I will not pass for “middle-aged” much longer, if at all.

And then I remembered some of my wonderful friends, people who were in their 70s and 80s when I was in my 20s and 30s. Even as they aged they were lively, happy, creative and self-directed, and they taught me a lot that makes me who I am today. I feel so close to them that it’s as if we last talked yesterday.

So there you have it: I can be one of them, too…and I am!

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Your story and your attitude regarding aging are absolutely wonderful!! Thanks so much for sharing. 🙂

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@edsutton

Two days ago I was out walking with my dog Hazel, and an image of myself came to me: An old man with his walking stick and his dog, walking briskly across a field.

I realized that I had not updated my self image in quite a while. In my 60s I looked as if I was in my early 50s, but now in my mid-70s my beard is grey, my hair is almost gone and my face is wrinkled. I will not pass for “middle-aged” much longer, if at all.

And then I remembered some of my wonderful friends, people who were in their 70s and 80s when I was in my 20s and 30s. Even as they aged they were lively, happy, creative and self-directed, and they taught me a lot that makes me who I am today. I feel so close to them that it’s as if we last talked yesterday.

So there you have it: I can be one of them, too…and I am!

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I love it Ed! My role models have always been strong women who kept on going in spite of age and adversity. One of my gardening mentors of 20 years died last Winter at the age of 94. Now someone told me she sees as her gardening mentor - I hope I can keep going for another 20 years like Jean did!
Sue

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@edsutton

Two days ago I was out walking with my dog Hazel, and an image of myself came to me: An old man with his walking stick and his dog, walking briskly across a field.

I realized that I had not updated my self image in quite a while. In my 60s I looked as if I was in my early 50s, but now in my mid-70s my beard is grey, my hair is almost gone and my face is wrinkled. I will not pass for “middle-aged” much longer, if at all.

And then I remembered some of my wonderful friends, people who were in their 70s and 80s when I was in my 20s and 30s. Even as they aged they were lively, happy, creative and self-directed, and they taught me a lot that makes me who I am today. I feel so close to them that it’s as if we last talked yesterday.

So there you have it: I can be one of them, too…and I am!

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Beautiful story. Thank you!

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@edsutton

Two days ago I was out walking with my dog Hazel, and an image of myself came to me: An old man with his walking stick and his dog, walking briskly across a field.

I realized that I had not updated my self image in quite a while. In my 60s I looked as if I was in my early 50s, but now in my mid-70s my beard is grey, my hair is almost gone and my face is wrinkled. I will not pass for “middle-aged” much longer, if at all.

And then I remembered some of my wonderful friends, people who were in their 70s and 80s when I was in my 20s and 30s. Even as they aged they were lively, happy, creative and self-directed, and they taught me a lot that makes me who I am today. I feel so close to them that it’s as if we last talked yesterday.

So there you have it: I can be one of them, too…and I am!

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Very wise. Thank you for sharing your beautiful & uplifting insights.

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@edsutton

Two days ago I was out walking with my dog Hazel, and an image of myself came to me: An old man with his walking stick and his dog, walking briskly across a field.

I realized that I had not updated my self image in quite a while. In my 60s I looked as if I was in my early 50s, but now in my mid-70s my beard is grey, my hair is almost gone and my face is wrinkled. I will not pass for “middle-aged” much longer, if at all.

And then I remembered some of my wonderful friends, people who were in their 70s and 80s when I was in my 20s and 30s. Even as they aged they were lively, happy, creative and self-directed, and they taught me a lot that makes me who I am today. I feel so close to them that it’s as if we last talked yesterday.

So there you have it: I can be one of them, too…and I am!

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Love this response... and try to follow with the same attitude....I feel fortunate that my deceased husband was 21 years older than me because I remember how he was in different situations(He was very young for his when he passed...91yrs) his uncle was 102yrs!)....I am learning not to panic and to roll with the punches....and carry on doing what I love to do(Painting) and the rest is less important...just have a good professional accountant, a good professional financial advisor & lawyer and carry on living how you want. Most of my friends are younger than me and I enjoy them very much as long they don't interfere with creating time and they understand and are very tolerant of me. I am so lucky. Makes up for any unwellness that gets in the way. Sorry to go on and on...but attitude is so important in life.

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