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Some days ago my bf cheated with me for another woman. I know what he did, but I love him so much that I can't leave him even knowing everything, he asked me for another chance, I gave it to him, but now he feels very guilty, so he wants time and can't be with me. I miss him a lot every moment, crying a lot and suffering from uncertainty, does he really love me, he told me that after a few months, if he is okay, he will come back to me . but I am suffering from insecurity and missing him a lot, I am in a trauma and crying all day, I don't know what he really wants. It's better to die than to love someone that's so deadly I can't even think what to do I don't understand anything.
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It is not better to die. It is better to be with someone who values you for who you are. Others should not decide how you should feel about yourself.
Part of this is you need to value yourself. To be honest, I did not learn that lesson until late in my life. I must admit, it is my greatest regret.
Matters of the heart can be so difficult. I get the impression you are very giving person. It is hard for me to tell you what to do. It just seems your relationship is unhealthy. Consult friends or family for opinions if you need to...sometimes they see things in a way we miss.
I wish you the best in this difficult decision. I will be most anxious to see what comes next for you.
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present." Master Oogway from the Movie Kung Fu Panda.
If he cheated on you once, he may cheat on you again. You deserve better than that. You are worth having someone who doesn't cheat on you. You will become a stronger person through this. You are strong enough to get through this. Believe in yourself. I believe you can get through this. Take one moment at a time.
I would consider reading "The Road Less Travelled" by M. Scott Peck. I've been where you are before and I totally empathize. I came to a point in my life where I simply had enough of my insecurity and making the man in my life more important than me. It is not easy to disengage. But, I chose to work on myself, complete the goal I had been thinking about for a long time (achieving a masters degree). Take action. Focus on yourself. You deserve good people who bring you joy, not heartache. Know that.
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I just read a new post by @judyingenes , and though of your post. It talks about being valued. If your not feeling valued, your in wrong place.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/someone-needs-to-see-this/
Laurie
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I went thru something similar many years ago, and it is very hard to deal with.
First, you deserve better. Do not let someone treat you with dis-respect.
Two books I read that helped put the relationship / breakup into perspective were:
- He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
- It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up
Do you have someone you can talk to this about, friend or a professional? Maybe even reach out to a therapist or your Primary Care Provider. Your PCP can diagenesis depression and refer you to professionals if necessary.
There is a future without him, and if you get to point you do not think so, reach out to National Hotline For Mental Health Crises - "988"
https://988lifeline.org/
Laurie