I am in a similar situation and I've found that depending on you wiliness to perform non straight intercourse methods sems to determine what things are considered acceptable. I as a male who find just about every part of the womans body enjoyable. But ive found a lot of woman find performing certain actions on their male partners not desirable. So it seems to be about what your experience level is. Being I have had a few serious relationships in my youth I can see major differences in what women find enjoyable when it comes to sex. Even where you were raised seems to affect it also. Now as for me I'm a very devout Christian now and I would not consider any kind of fun with an extra partner besides my wife. But also I'm not naive to think only intercourse as the only option, as some in religious upbringing feel, that are acceptable. I also could see that you are willing to accept anything to help relief the loss of intercourse. If you want more detail of Ideas, I can think of you can Private message me and I could elaborate further. I'm assuming you're a male and probably oral forms of sex are a stumbling block. So feel free to ask if you want some ideas I've thought of.