How to get moving

I find that the hardest step to take is the first.

Typically, I start very small. Maybe I'll just commit to getting showered, shaved, and dressed up enough to go in public.

Then I might give myself a small task, like buying something at a dollar store. I make a point of saying "Hi" and "Thank you" to the clerk.

Once I get even a tiny bit of momentum, I may add another small task. I'll think, "Well, I went through the trouble of getting dressed and going out. Since I'm already here..."

Sometimes, it doesn't work, to be honest. But more often than not, I'll feel a bit better, and want to go out again, sooner or later.

I'm disabled and in my 60s. People don't exactly get ecstatic when I come stumbling through their door. I don't care. I need to get out more.

Thank you, that is helpful. Even cleaning my room or cooking dinner or talking on the phone seems too hard sometimes. I think an afternoon coffee might help me too. But I totally agree about showering and targeting a small task for starters. You’ve inspired me to clean my room. Thanks again.

Good for you!

Even the smallest step forward is progress.

fjc, I agree with Scott. Start small. Getting up in the morning has been hard at times. I know the feeling of not wanting to interact with anyone. Sometimes I would go to out to eat and take my time. Even at a fast food place. Just hearing people seemed to help make me feel less lonely but it also gave me a little dose of community.

I remember eating a local burger place once. At one point the waitress came up to me and looked me in the eye and said, “I will pray for you tonight.” She just knew I needed some contact and I have no doubt she did. Needless to say I left a large tip and have done so every time I go back.

There is a social site I go to find gatherings: meetup.com if you are up for it, you may want to check it out. It’s free and there are a lot people who are alone, but get together to do things like lunch, hiking, camping, walking, book club, etc. Not sure where you are located and what activities are in your area. Not sure your age, but there are a lot people in their 40s and 50s. Younger and older as well.

Thanks Mike. That's helpful too.

Scott, that is helpful. Some days i just don’t feel like getting out of bed. I like the idea of starting with one small activity.

One task a day… add if you like.

I just try to get cleaned up and dressed in fresh clothing.

If anything more gets done, it’s gravy.

I walk the dog without fail and I force myself to ride my bike whenever I can…I always feel better after the bike rides - even if I am recovering from it all afternoon (because I have not done it often enough, not because I rode too much. But don’t ride too far to turn around and get back!

Like all of us, I do the “one step at a time” method and always have "the next step" in mind when this one is completed. It really helps. I am so fatigued I just want to lie down, but I don't allow myself to give in.

Hi fjc,
Try eating high energy foods such as yogurt, a good steak with potatoes and gravy. When your body is tired, it needs help with good food. Also taking iron helps too and Gatorade will help your electrolytes which help you feel better overall. I do all of this and it helps a lot! Also I make lists of what I need to do that day. I don't always do everything on the list but I try to. It's fine to isolate yourself and read a good book too. Prayer helps with everything. I'll remember you in my prayers.
PML

Thank you, I really appreciate all those tips. I’m going to make a list first thing tomorrow morning and make a high protein lunch. And forgive myself if I don’t get to everything on the list. Thank you for your kindness and just listening and understanding.