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I am 55 and dated a man who is the same age for 7 months. He was diagnosed with prostrate cancer in October and I have not seen him since. The only correspondence is via text if I initiate it. He had 30 rounds of radiation. I told him I would wait and I have. He is now saying he doesn’t want to date, he has changed both mentally and physically, he has no sexual desire due to the radiation and is mentally not right. I knew ED was a possible side affect and I fine with it. I just want to be in his life even if just friends. We enjoyed the same things and had so much fun together. I have to realize I am the same person and he has changed. It is so hard and painful. I love this man.
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Thank you Jason.
Saw your question and the responses. Seems I will have to give it a try.
Have a healthy New Year.
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Hi @johannha36, you might be interested in these 2 related discussions:
- Length of Lupron effects after treatment concludes
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/length-of-lupton-effects-after-treatment-concludes/
- After failed radiation and Lupron what comes next?
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/after-failed-radiation-and-lupron-what-comes-next/
What stage is your husband's prostate cancer? How is he doing?
Good Luck Narus,
I realize that medicine is an ever evolving practice and science. I sincerely wish you success on your journey. I am not as brave, to reject my current protocol and actively inject Testesterone, that is quite a stretch for me. Eventhough my former self and life has been unalterately altered for my hope of greater longevity. Yes, I too have been impacted and diminished in every way you have described.
Kayefo, friend and all; we are given many gifts, talents and experiences in this life. It is difficult to give them up as they have been so joyious and fulfilling, perhaps even defining our self-image our very sense of self and our connection with the Universe. Aging into and through my 70's, I am learning that releasing those gifts with a sense of gratitude may be helpful in eliminating stress. I can still listen to music and do "touch dancing" with my Wife: a short waltz, a much shorter vienna waltz, a little disco hustle and I have to sit for a long time to recover. But we still smile, laugh at our situation and life, and enjoy each other. I wish I could do things for other people as I use to, but alas that strength and endurance has left me forever. I wish you and all reading this great comfort, warmth and hope in this life with a longing for the next. God's Strength and Grace to you all and to our troubled World.
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