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Dear Nurseheadaches. What a clear response. Going in-depth to show the way to help ones self with the pain. It is easy to learn from you. Keep it up. IT IS NOT EASY! Peach
Thank you Ms Peach - I usually call it as it is since it comes from what I know or what I have learned by bumping along the hard way. Simple is as simple does. We can read a lot or be preached to about many things but if we can be given something that is simple and manageable for our daily lives - then that is something you and I can apply. It's practical. Life is too complicated to do anything that makes my brain hurt. Or for that matter - yours! Smile
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2 ReactionsAnd they can't take positive thoughts away from us also. We do,do for ourselves. I am very lucky my wife who's a nurse at mayo let's me do all my crazy hobbies. In turn keeps me distracted. Which in turn works as good as all the pain meds. I take. Have a great weekend. And my it be pain free.
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2 Reactions@tazscott.... I agree. Distractions, or enjoyable activities that you get caught up in make a painful day pass much more pleasantly. Make a short list of 3 or 4 activities that incite your creativity, are productive, or include others into your day. Choose one to put effort into. Painfilled days quickly pass when we fill our time with enjoyable activities. Plus, when we produce...baking, music, sewing, helping others...we have purpose. It's easier to do nothing. But what have we to show for our time? Nothing. How satisfying is that? Believe me...if it moves...MOVE IT! If you don't, it's true, you WILL lose it.
I speak as one who has many serious pain issues. I take low dose pain meds. Minimal relief, but I am grateful. The less I focus on me, the more I value life. Even on days I'm feeling like crap....suffering greatly. When the most I can do is pull one of my many littles (grandkids) on my lap and look at picture books and listen to their chatter....on those miserable days, I smile and so do my kids! We create good memories despite the beast. Don't let the beast run you. If you do, it takes over. We all know there are people suffering more than us. Yet they keep on keeping on. So can we.
Chronic severe pain has a way of stealing all our joy, all our energy if we let it. One may say "yeah, but you don't have MY awful pain." I know pain. Awful pain. Not talking about small stuff. But because I want to do more than exist, I must make the effort to distract myself so the daily beast is secondary instead of the daily main event. I want to live, not merely exist. And I wish that for others. Blessings JMJ
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2 Reactions@jmjlove Your words, along with those of @tazscott mean a lot to me, especially today. Distraction is good when pain or stress of any kind rears its head. Doing for others, "getting out of your own way" focuses your energy away from the negatives. I find journaling, and writing/talking to my pain helps to take away the force it would like to have.relying on low-dose pain meds [Tylenol and CBD only] keeps me aware of the pain but not a slave to it. Our cat senses my discomfort and presents herself often, for a cuddle or simple scratch on her tummy. She glues herself to me in bed.
Ginger
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2 ReactionsHow True you both are! I have two dogs and a cat. When you think you are at your wits end they are there to help you! They are our Kindered Spirts that are meant to add Joy and Love to our Lifes!
Forcing your self to get out of your hole is also so important. However short it may be. A simple 30 minute drive. Observe what you pass! Stop for a moment and just listen and smeell can bring Great Joy!
Sundance
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3 ReactionsHeft my out of yourself is valuable I took our new oh remodeled train today it's been under remodeling since January forgot about Me and pain I also made homemade 15 bean soup and bread pudding so bad a productive day
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2 ReactionsWell,well said. Hope you have a great weekend
Oh my,you are so right about cats and dogs. If it was for both of them I would have proably done something bad in the past. Mine are incredible therphy for me. Along with my many hobbies
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3 Reactions@tazscott....Lived on 2 different farms, 24 years total. Raised goats, sheep, rabbits, pigs, ducks, geese, chickens, cats and dogs. Every single birthing season was sheer delight for me. Every baby born gave me a thrill. Actually, sheep shearing, fence building, the daily egg search, milking, breeding, producing our own foods, buying and selling fine animals, haying season, picking veggies, canning salsa, well...I LOVED all of it!
After a very large cerebellar stroke, and 2 years later a fast growing aneurysm requiring the removal of 2 ribs and one of my neck muscles in a 71/2 hr. surgery at University of Michigan, I am now unable to work on farm, so sold it to son. Broke my heart, but happy son will carry on and keep it in the fam. Turned out perfectly because it was time to move north to care for 88 year old father. Much change, but worth it to make sure father gets the care he needs. The demands on me I volunteered for so not complaining. The shift in focus was very good for me. Now it's not all about me, my farm, my kids, their kids.....now it's all about my poor dad. He has terrible dementia, rheumatoid, but in good health despite his issues. He has taken a few headers over the last few months, so our major concern is his safety. This focus takes me out of my me zone and into providing loving care for the man who raised me. Nothing like being needed to deflect self focus and babying ones self. This has been a gift of sorts and I'm grateful for it. It's funny, but even if you've had issues with a parent...while caring for them, your love grows beyond measure.
Anyway, lots of words to say we all need a focal point in our lives, otherwise our focus is too often solely on how we feel. It's easy to do. Done it myself, but it doesn't take a genious to see that if we set our sights outside of our personal sufferings, we actually, without realizing it, begin to deal with our issues much better. They become secondary in our lives. I've a feeling you too have discovered that. And many others, here, too. JMJ
Oh! Most important to me is cultivating my Faith, hopefully making a more charitable and generous person out of this broke down old warhorse.
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