Do You Live in "Shunland"?

Thank you so much. Right now I am still trying to forgive my husband for dying on me. Not doing too well at that. So for 62 years I moved out of Shunland, but am back again. Some of it is me. I really don't want to see or be with anyone at this time. However with all this "stuff" going around, perhaps staying out of it is healthier. I like going out for lunch. It would be nice to have a friend to go to lunch with once a month. Can't afford much more. Hope you have a wonderful 2024 and love back to you.

I am very sorry about your husband. I'm sure that if your husband could have stayed Tobe with you and if he could have been healthy, he would have stayed. Don't be angry at him.. be angry at what he didn't have a chance to change.
I have an amazing man as my husband. I thank God every day for that . But I have
had a lot of grief in my life and I can't seem to work through my grief.
Oh, I would love to go out to lunch. My best friend of over 50 years was diagnosed with alzheimer s last May. She doesn't know me now.
Lunch with a girl friend would be lovely.
Please take care of yourself. This time of the year is not easy for a lot of us.
Thank you for replying to me.

The reason I am angry is because my husband was not dying. He was stubborn. He had Parkinson's. However it was under control. We had a very good neurologist. I took him to see her every three months and he got a thorough examination. I always made sure he got his medications in a timely fashion. But the problem was that he had to get up during the night to go to the bathroom. He was unsteady on his feet. Twice he fell. I borrowed a walker. I begged him to use the walker to walk the few feet to the bathroom. He refused and said he could do it himself. The third time he fell he broke his femur and was dead in three months. He did not have to die at that time. All he had to do was use the walker to help him to the bathroom. So, yes, I am angry.

Good for you!

GOOD FOR YOU1 VERY UPLIFTING. i ALSO HAVE CHOSEN THE BRIGHT, HAPPY SIDE. WE CAN ALL MAKE THAT CHOICE, AS DIFFICULT AS IT MAY BE. AND WHEN WE DO--YIPEE, THE SUN COMES UP
BLESSINGS TO ALL.

This is from Helen Keller.

I believe it is changing my life:

"So much has been given me I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied."

My husband's last 5 years with Parkinson's were horrible on both of us. He died suddenly in his sleep one day. His health would have failed further. So many different doctors we saw marching to the inevitable end.
He possibly would have had Parkinson;s dementia and hallucinations like mine did. He no longer liked me. Your husband may feel that he spared you a lot of grief by dying when he did. I feel for you, but it's time to start workig on your anger and seeing your blessings of being able to still have a good life without him.

I'm glad my comments weren't upsetting. My husband and I were married for 58 years. AFter he died I developed breast cancer. I couldn't have taken care of him any longer during that period of time.
I'm 82 now and I live alone on 22 acres and do well with the help of my kids who come out several days a week to do things that I no longer can.

@walton
Good friends are the rare jewels of life, difficult to find and impossible to replace!!

But those of us who live in Shunland do not have friends.