suzanne1955 | @suzanne1955

I also have mixed feelings about holidays. Family has strained relationships and most have no interest in getting together for holidays. I have tried so often to arrange something, and then am disappointed when it never happens.

No perfect answer how to deal with holiday, here are few suggestions:
- I never watch "Hallmark" movies, they are fantasy and not real life.
- Avoid alcohol / drugs, just makes worse.
- Do random acts of kindness, something to put smile on someone else's face. It makes me feel better.
- Limit expectations, they just lead to resentment.
- Have a plan, reach out for help if needed.

Here is what I plan on doing the next couple of weeks:
- I have close friend who invited me to his house on xmas eve to celebrate with his family. Have done in previous year, at first felt odd including myself in his family, but they have become my adopted family during holidays.
- On XMAS day, will watch old movies (not - xmas ones) and treat myself to some self care. Soak in tube and do my nails. If nice, take dog for long walk.

If in crisis, 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is always available.
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Wish you well
Laurie