I don't blame you. I am a very no nonsense type person. I moved out to NJ (from NYC) where my family is and I noticed my mother was declining mentally. I mentioned it to my father and sister, they hit the roof? They said I don't know why/what you trying to do......So after a Sunday dinner where the chicken wasn't in the oven etc., then she got lost and I put my foot down! She was evaluated and had Alzheimer's, beginning stages. And I guess it's common sense. but I would watch my sister and Father and think, not only are you being cruel, you're an idiot! They would ask questions and try to get her to remember??? I said, She's not going to remember, you can't re-teach this away. I said I get on the bus with her and go wherever it is that she thinks she's going. I wouldn't be able to watch common sense go by the wayside..... I hope your family kept enough or got long term care. Good luck with everything