None. My parents passed within 3 mos of each other and my sister in law who fought cancer passed a month before them. There was no one to help in any constructive way. It was all about what they got or how they managed not to help. We strove to bring up good and responsible children only to have non responsive adults.
In 2018 our apt bldg burned to its foundation and along with it, we lost our entire apartment including everything we owned. Again we received no help from family except temporary housing from our daughter and that was curtailed because her husband was not in agreement of how we wanted to return to our familiar neighborhood in NY.
I’ve stopped bemoaning how we do not have societal standards as we did years ago, but these are the new norms. We are relocated to Florida. I grew up in Miami but we chose to settle on the west coast. I’ve read your situation and I think life throws us unbearable situations that we have to resolve and do the best we are able.