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IMNSHO: The Top Ten Things NOT to say to a Caregiver
Caregivers | Last Active: Nov 29, 2023 | Replies (46)Comment receiving replies
@jhilbish Yes, "you do what you have to do" is often what people say. Probably true. But still, as I think of caregiving, it seems mostly about heroics. Hard work has been my whole life, and it still is. I don't mind all kinds of labor, physical and intellectual. Another aspect of caregiving is that it often happens when the caregiver is already old, and needs help himself, or at least, would like some help. It can make old age miserable.
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I can't explain it? I never had kids, not my thing! Never changed a diaper, newborns terrify me. Give them to me when they are three, take them back at 5 or 6. My parents were in assisted living and it was still a lot! I don't think it's about heroic's, if it is, the caregiver is doing this for the wrong reasons........We hired a woman to come in and bathe my father, it's an extra level of care and they had the means thankfully to be in a great place with great care. I guess being his skin was paper thin and he always bruised and had those purple spots etc... He was so frail, when he asked me, I was shocked! And the bottom line is, you can't change it. My husband had stage 4 Neuroendocrine Cancer PNET. I never thought this would happen to us?? I guess you just have to play the hand you were dealt.....