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My plastic surgeon at my last visit
Breast Cancer | Last Active: Nov 27, 2023 | Replies (30)Comment receiving replies
I think I will like these new breasts once they heal up. They are just looking rather gruesome still, and I can’t help but go through some mourning for my old breasts.
These new ones don’t feel like “me” yet. And the scars have a long ways to go to heal.
I was in a low mood when I wrote that post. I’m sure I will adjust and be happy with my new breasts.
It just struck me as the entirely wrong tone to take for someone who was operated on for cancer, as opposed to a patient coming in because she wishes to have a breast reduction for cosmetic reasons.
My surgery was a “have to” and not a “want to” and with the former, it’s not fair to expect me to be all happy about the surgery. I am grateful, but it never would have been a surgery I wanted to have.
They didn’t really offer me any options for this surgery, I was just told, we are going to take this out of each breast, move tissue around, lift things back up, etc.
So I don’t think an implant was actually an option, I’m guessing that is only an option for the full mastectomies rather than the partial mastectomies?
I’ll get used to these, and it’s a lot better than having full mastectomies at least.
I’m sure in time these new breasts will feel like “me” again.
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Sounds like a reduction like mine. I have I think its called "anchor scars" a long line under the crease of my breast and then a line straight up to the nipple and a scar around the nipple. The nipple scar is almost invisible at 6 months the line from the nipple is still fairly visible and the crease ones are just about gone and also quite hidden. I keep my scar tape on 24/7 even in the shower now, and it's helping! With my small A's now I have to admit i rarely wear a bra anymore, that is kind of nice 🙂
I hope you do come to like your new normal, breast-size-wise. When I was young I was a dance and exercise enthusiast and never got bigger than a B. Then I gave birth to my son and my breasts became huge, unwieldy Ds. I did not know how to handle the extra "boobage," as my friend Katy calls it, which seemed to have developed minds of their own. "You go this way, and I'll go that way," they silently colluded during various physical activities. I loved breastfeeding, but when that was over my heretofore perfect Bs were the only place on my body with stretch marks from becoming a mom. My perfect (for me) breasts were no more, and I mourned the loss, so I can relate. 30 years later, I jokingly told my breast surgeon before my lumpectomy that it would be great if I woke up with breasts that didn't fall toward my armpits when I laid on my back. My Mayo surgeon did such a great job that I can hardly tell she took anything out, and the incisions fit right in there with the damage from my year as a D in 1993.
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@msandbreastcancerwarrior I agree that doctors should ask you how you feel physically and emotionally not tell you how to feel or how they feel about it. I think you are correct that healing will improve the appearance and it make take some getting used to.