So sorry you feel this way. It does take some time to get used to our new bodies but also for the scars to fully heal. What kind of surgery did you have?
I had a reduction done when I had my lumpectomy surgery. And like you my breasts did get bigger when I hit menopause. They were not huge but barely a C cup prior to diagnosis to a barely an A afterwards. And while I look at my breasts and think wow lots of scars I would never feel bad about them. Yes they are smaller but I have this one wrap dress that they look gorgeous in. Have you considered buying a super special new bra that you can wear that makes you feel gorgeous again? My surgery was in April and the scars are really improving, when was your surgery? I used silicone scar tape and Bio-oil and both have helped a lot!