This is a second marriage for me abiet over 27 years together. I have never comingled any money of mine with his. My Mama taught me better than that. That was one other question his daughter once asked me.....had I comingled my funds (I have more than he does). My response to her was that was none of her business, period. You are right, she's been planning for a long time. To protect myself and him, I am going to find a good elder law attorney. Believe me, I have no qualms about mentioning the incidents with the daughter, for my own protection.