Hi Ronnie,

I am also 56 and I get it- I am the main "breadwinner" in my family. I provide the medical for all of us and I am on medical leave. I had a lobectomy and 10 lymph nodes removed after 3 months of chemo- the next step for me is radiation. It is all very stressful and telling my daughter was the hardest part-

My suggestion is to take one day at a time. Think about recovering from your cancer, just one day at a time after surgery. Make sure everything is in your reaching area before surgery for when you get home so you don't have to bend over and or move too much (toothpaste, toilet paper, things in the refrigerator, dishes, your clothes, if you have pets their food and bowls) Get big roomy shirts you won't want to wear a bra, I am still braless and wearing giant t-shirts and it has been 4 almost 5 weeks since my lobectomy. Get a grabber.
Congrats on being sober, that is something to praise yourself for daily.

Take time telling friends and family.

Thanks for sharing this is all hard- and weird, sometimes I think...Am I talking about myself? Do I really have cancer?

april