← Return to Help - I am the Wife of a Man that Needs a Hip Replacement and refuses

Discussion

Help - I am the Wife of a Man that Needs a Hip Replacement and refuses

Joint Replacements | Last Active: Oct 24, 2023 | Replies (8)
Comment receiving replies
@kartwk

Thanks Sue

I knew there had to be a support group but didn't find it.

RE the gripper and walker. He has both a walker and a rollinator and refuses to use them. He also has a gripper but it never is where he needs it so he just drops stuff and leaves it.

The moaning and groaning is the worst. And let's not even talk about him being crabby etc.

Jump to this post

Replies to "Thanks Sue I knew there had to be a support group but didn't find it. RE..."
Sue, Volunteer Mentor | @sueinmn | Oct 22, 2023

That sounds familiar "He has both a walker and a rollinator and refuses to use them." I cared for or helped care for family members and neighbors since I was a small child. Sometimes just assisting, sometimes as primary. Most times it was challenging, or gown right hard. But right now I am in a sweet spot - my husband and I can help each other, but neither needs caregiving yet. Not having cared for a spouse, I am sending you over to those who are doing it, because I understand it is a whole different dynamic.

I think the caregivers group can help you tease out what he WANTS from you and what he NEEDS. Then you can prepare yourself to put up with his demands and his behavior and still have a bit of a life yourself.

I'll be thinking of you!
Sue

VIEW AND REPLY