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no idea how to accomplish what i need
Caregivers | Last Active: Oct 19, 2023 | Replies (20)Comment receiving replies
Perhaps it's his treatment that makes him so difficult. However, you need to consider your needs and those of your husband as well as your friend. Otherwise, you two will burn out and be good for nothing. I'm sure you know all this and what you really need is a solution. Is there some kind of social services at the hospital. I know when my brother in law was in rehab. (He was 85 and had fallen.) The rehab facility wouldn't release him till they were satisfied that he had the proper care at home. He didn't have it because I refused to become his caretaker. So he elected to stay at their nursing home permanently where he died after about 6 months. He also was getting chemo. I hope in some way this was helpful. I wish you all the best. You are a very good person...God Bless !
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I think the social services idea is your best option. This man is ruining your life and your husband’s and you may have done all you can for him.
Perhaps social services can line up a more teasonablexarrangementvandcstabd by you when he hears about it.
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we have a lot of complications with it all...part of it is the fact is actual home is 1.5 hours north of me, yes he COULD get chemo closer than what he is BUT the hospitals in this area suck to put it nicely.. they weren't even going to do a rescan even after seeing the lesion in June until 6-8 weeks had passed...in the 4 weeks from original scanning to the one done at a bigger hospital he had been admitted to for a different reason, it had grown 1.3 cm.. they did a rescan at 4 weeks because i asked them to...and THEY were the ones that fast tracked it to the research hospital to get treatment... .....so definitely not moving closer to these hospitals for chemo treatments for sure... he's only 51so doesn't qualify for a lot of the senior assistance programs, and because he's not a US citizen (legal resident/perm green card holder for 17 yrs) he doesn't qualify for disability or such...ebt and medicaid is the only assistance he gets.. i'll definitely check with care coordinator about other things..maybe they know something...at least i do get gas reimbursement for the trips...