Yes, I have thought of respite care, but she panics at any mention of such things. I have been performing gospel music at some nursing homes, and she accompanies me on these occasions, which may lessen her fear of being placed in such facilities. Two of our children come to visit every three months or so, which helps. Anti depressants and anti psychotic medications, along with dysphasia medication and various others have kept her functional, aside from nearly total loss of short term memory and cognitive issues. She does attend church and Bible study with me regularly, although she doesn't participate or enjoy it, and resists all the Dr and dentist visits and health procedures, but we get them done anyway.
Thank you for your concern and for your ideas, it means a lot.